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Hi, I'm new around here To make my story short, I have one DS who was born in a hospital. I planned to try to go unmedicated with him but was confined to the bed the entire time due to hospital staff freaking me out about baby's HR (later only to find out it was no big deal at all!) I ended up getting an epidural because being stuck on the bed was horrible and not at all what i had wanted from my birthing experience. Thankfully he was born vaginally but only after i was put through a lot of stress. This time I will be delivering in a birthing center and am very excited about it!!
As for my question.. We can't afford both classes and a doula so i have to pick one or the other. We were originally going to take hynobirthing or Bradley classes (hadn't decided which) and have DH be my one and only support person during labor. He can learn things from the classes i'm sure but lately i've been thinking maybe i should pay just a little more and get a doula instead? That way I'll have someone there who is really educated on everything and can help out without thinking twice about what position, breathing technique, etc. would work best. I know DH will be a great support and i want him to be my main support regardless of my decision, which leads me to my second question.. could having a doula take away from DH being that #1 support?
So the place we are at now is having to decide whether to hire a doula or take the necessary classes and do it on our own. Opinions?
Have you considered classes and a student doula? You can often find a student doula or a new doula who is trained and working towards certification, who is willing to work for a discount or FREE.
If that doesn't sound good, I'd say it really depends on your needs so it's hard to say which one would be better for you. Seeing that you will be in a birth center, you won't need an advocate to achieve a natural birth as much as you would in a hospital. Do you need any other types of support? Do you feel what you are lacking most is information? Do you feel you might need a guide during the process, or do you just need to understand the process and procedures a little better? These things might help you decide which one might be best for your situation.
Also, a good doula will never take the place of your primary support person. A good doula will be a great support for your husband and help them feel more confident about their role during the birth as well. It sounds like you should look up some doulas in your area and you might benefit from doing a few consultations. A good doula will also help you figure out which one you need better: a doula or childbirth education.
Thanks for your input! I can see why it would depend on my needs. I don't feel like i need education and information about childbirth, i know a lot of that already. What i need are ways to cope with the pain. If i get a doula i will still most likely get a book to read so i'm prepared myself and also so my husband can learn beforehand. I feel its important for him to learn how to help with pressure points, breathing, etc. especially if i choose not to get a doula so that is the purpose of a class for me. I have a friend who took bradley classes and said a lot of it was childbirth education which is really not what i'm looking for. But yeah, i'm just torn on which way to go. I guess i could interview a few like you said and see if that would help my decision.
If it comes down to one or the other, choose the Doula!!!!! Mine actually taught my birthing class so that worked out well but she was the life saver in my delivery. Originally we weren't going to have one but thankfully we changed our minds. I don't know how your birth center is but at mine the midwifes leave you alone. They come in to check you then leave you be to labor. My midwife didn't really sit with me until I was 8 cm and almost delivering. My doula was my care taker. I couldn't imagine having done that with just Dave, he would have been lost on what to do and we took an 8 week class.
Hi you!! If I had to choose out of the two I would choose a doula as well. I never took any classes and just read books on my own but of course each person is different! PM me if you want the names of the books I found really helpful.
Okay thank you ladies!! I will look into doulas as i think as you said i would get more from one than i would get from any classes. We will also probably get a good book to read together to help prepare.
I took a hypnobirthing class last time and had already said I would want a doula next time. I think my hubby could have used the support supporting me. I will reread the hypnobirthing book and plan on getting a doula
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I would definitely opt for the doula. We didn't do any courses. I read a lot online, and read a lot of birth stories. I hired a doula who was well versed in many different areas and she was able to help with positioning, breathing, relaxation techniques, massage, etc. She was amazing and was able to suggest different things and coach me through it during the labor and birth.
I'm reading as much as I can and opting for a doula who is working toward her certification. I'm blessed to have found someone who we could actually afford and who I love. I think it will really help me to have both her and J reminding me of everything that I might otherwise forget in the heat of the moment.
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