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I'm sorry you're going this far past date. I had my daughter at 42 weeks and the last week of my pregnancy was so stressful with all the appointments and ultrasounds. Keep in mind that the average length of second pregnancy is 40 weeks 4 days so you are certainly still in the realm of normal.
I ended up being naturally induced by my midwife at 42 weeks for a number of reasons. I had nearly failed a biophysical profile at 41+4, my cervix was still completely long and closed and baby was at -3. I had my biophysical profile on a friday and if she hadn't been born by monday my midwife wanted me to contact my ob to have a formal non-stress test to be sure it was safe to continue. I was not at all comfortable talking to him. I had a feeling he would not want me to go past 42 weeks (I would have been 42 weeks exactly) and try to talk me into an induction. Emotionally I was not in any shape to handle being preached at and I was terrified of risking out of home birth so I asked her to try some natural methods to start my labor over the weekend. She had me use a breast pump, walk, and gave me castor oil and cohosh. It took two days but I did wake up in labor at Midnight on monday morning and Claire was born at 6:01 am.
I do feel cheated out of spontaneous labor but overall I'm very glad I went through the natural induction process. I really feel that I would not have passed any further biophysical profiles or non stress tests and then I would have ended up in the hospital with a medical induction. Since my cervix had been completely closed I would probably have ended up with a c section too. Claire was born in a compound presentation and it took me an hour to push her out. My midwife thinks that her bad position is what kept her from dropping into my pelvis and that's what stalled my body from going into labor on its own.
My situation is certainly not the norm and lots of women go well past 42 weeks and go on to have completely normal, natural labors and births so please don't get discouraged! I know you posted this yesterday and I'm hoping your little one is already here by now. Keep us posted on how you're doing!