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I am hoping for a natural childbirth, and this forum is so helpful as I sort through my questions!
Did you work with a midwife practice, where the midwives rotate and you wouldn't be sure who attended your delivery? Or did you work with a single midwife, knowing that person would attend your delivery?
I know the question may not exactly apply for birth centers and home deliveries. I'm working with a midwife practice and plan to deliver in a hospital. I adore the midwife I'm working with, and she seems to be very invested in our pending parenthood. But there is no guarantee that she will be the one attending delivery, since they work on a rotating schedule at L&D. Someone suggested that I make appointments with other midwives so I get to know them and they are all familiar faces on delivery day. Would you say this is good advice? Anybody in a similar situation?
I went to a birth center with three midwives and they were on a similar rotation. We had appointments with all of them, and I loved each one and had no problems with any one of them showing up for my delivery. They were all really like-minded and very sweet women.
I think if you have no choice in deciding who will be there when the time comes, meeting them all is a good idea.
In New Zealand you always deal with the same midwife throughout your pregnancy and birth. There is generally a second midwife at the birth as well, who you may not know. In my case, I've just met another women who I got on really well with, so she has offered to be my secondary midwife in labour which I'm really happy about! (She was a midwife, but has just changed to a plunket nurse due to having young children herself).
My last birth was with a new midwifery practice. It was just two at the time, but has since grown tremendously. I loved having only the two of them, but the word got out about service they offer (like no other around), so they HAD to take more midwives so that they didn't have to turn people away. I really appreciate them and what they are trying to offer our community.
But this time I am going with homebirth midwives. There are two of them and they have one assistant. Sometimes it's one midwife and an assistant and sometimes you get all three. I'm looking forward to a new experience this time around.
Previously known as ~~Que~~
Student Midwife, Doula, Placenta Specialist, and Lactation Counselor
I worked with a single midwife and really loved her. We don't plan on living in the same area when we have #2 but I hope things work out to where I can work with a single midwife again. If I go with a practice of midwives I will try to meet all of them so there are no surprises on delivery day.
I went to a birth center and there's supposed to be a rotation of several midwives but only ever met two. When I went into labor there was a different midwife in the beginning but at 830 one of the midwives I knew well came in and delivered me. I loved the two I met with and am glad I delivered with one of them. The other had to actually come in and deliver the placenta so I guess I ended up with both.
This is really helpful, thanks. I think I'll try to meet a few different midwives in the practice, and then cross my fingers I get to deliver with my favorite. I can be flexible about a lot of things, but I am not interested in strangers showing up to direct the show when my pants are off.
Home birth is so appealing for this reason, among others.
I had a natural birth in a hospital with a midwife group. It's a large group, there are something like 10 or 12 different midwives. With my last pregnancy I saw mostly one or two of them that I liked the best, just for consistency. This time I didn't care since I didn't have any concerns really. I liked almost all of them, and with very few exceptions I walked out of appointments feeling very happy. i got lucky and with both of my last two births I had the same midwife on call that day, one of the sweet ones that I really really like.
I used a birth center with my second daughter with 3-4 midwives. I rotated through them all for appointments because it was the same thing, there were only 2 midwives on-call at a time so there was no guarantee who would be there when I went into labor. It looks like you have a lot of time though, so relax and get to know them all and I'm sure you will find you love them all!
Andrea, mom to 3 beautiful girls - Abigail (8) Annabelle (6) and Alexis (3)
Another thing you can do is hire a doula. She was my constant I had no matter what happened and I really liked that. She worked with me more than my midwife did anyways so ultimately it wouldn't have mattered who was catching my baby.