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What made you decide to go that way? We had Mason at a birth center and I loved my experience and felt very safe there. It was kind of a pain though driving 45 minutes to a place set up like a home and having to pack things to bring there. I would have been just as fine staying at home honestly. I did like the fact of not having to worry about getting my carpet dirty though = ). Dave however was completely against a home birth and frankly I was kind of scared to do it too for my first. Our old house was a good 20 minute drive to the nearest hospital and our birth center is literally a rock throw away.
Now though, Dave has decided he would support me if I choose to have one at home so now the balls in my court..... And I'm frozen about it lol. Here I am planning on being a midwife and delivering babies at home and I am concerned about doing it myself???? I'm confused by that. I think it's the proximity of the hospital to our home type of thing that has me worried. Still a good 10-15 minute drive depending on the time of the day. I'm nervous about it because Mason had cord issue that was missed during our u/s and when I delivered him my midwives eyes went to saucers and she said I would have never been allowed to deliver at Best Start and may have been scheduled for a csection. Now, rare event but what if a separate emergency arose?
I guess my question is, how did you conquer your fear about having a home birth? I guess it almost feels like a birth center is a safety net and I trusted my midwives with my life and my babies.
Well, less variables are introduced at home, therefore there tend to be less complications. I didn't feel the need for the hospital at all for a normal process like birth. And from my experience in emergency situations (home and hospital), it takes the same amount of time for the emergency response no matter if you have to drive 30 mins to the hospital, or if you are in labor and delivery room #1.
As far as the mess, the only mess that happened at my house during my birth was that I spilled my doula's coffee in my bedroom. The home birth kit had everything I needed to keep my stuff clean (waterproof sheets, plastic to go under birth pool, lots and lots of chux pads, etc).
Homebirth midwives are really good at being proactive and educating their moms on how to live a healthy lifestyle and those moms generally have healthier pregnancies and births too.
But really, because of the difference in care, and completely different factors alltogether, it's really hard to compare home birth to hospital birth.
I'm definitely not contemplating a hospital birth if I don't need one. I'm just curious about is it really any safer with birth center versus a home birth? I assume no, it's probably a mental thing more so. I think my only fear would be deliverying an unresponsive baby with no recessitating equipment, I know highly unlikely in a low risk birth, but it's still a concern. I'm sure the more educated I get with my schooling the less fear I'll have. We're not planning number two for a couple more years but I want to get the mentality now of what we'll be having.
I've had 4 home births and I asked my midwife the same question during our interview. She explained that a home birth is the same as a birth center birth brought to your house. She has all the same equipment that a birth center has, including oxygen and pitocin (for a hemorrhage). Midwives are trained to watch for anything abnormal in birth. In most cases they will transport long before it becomes a true emergency. In all of my births there was zero mess on the carpet. The birth kit has chux pads and peroxide just in case. Maybe interviewing some home birth midwives in your area will help. Asking them what they carry and what has happened in prior emergencies can be a great way to feel more at ease.
I chose to have a home birth because I really didn't want to birth at the crappy hospital here. I had done a lot of research on birth while we were WTTC and decided then that I really wanted to birth at home if at all possible. And let me tell ya, there is nothing like taking a shower in your own bathroom and then snuggling your baby and napping in your own bed right after you give birth.
I don't think there is much difference between birthing at home and birthing at a birth center as far as safety goes. My midwife brought all kinds of stuff to my birth, pitocin, oxygen, etc. The only difference may be that most birth centers are in close proximity to a hospital so your house might be a little further away. There is very little mess with a home birth. My midwife brought tons of chux pads and plastic sheeting. I had Claire on my bed and there was no mess at all. They cleaned everything up before they left.
If we have anymore we are going to plan an unplanned home birth. We barely made it to the birth center that is 50 miles from our house. From the first "real" noticeable contraction to DD2 being born was 3 hours. Transition in the car was not fun.
The only reason we wouldn't purposely plan a homebirth is because my state doesn't license midwives for homebirth or some drama. of course as part of my unplanned, planned home birth would involve meeting some midwives who would be willing to attend the birth.
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We chose a home birth after initially planning a birth center birth. My midwife was in the process of acquiring a birth center and therefore there wasn't one set up yet. But she explained to me that she would have all the same things with her regardless of which building we were in (a birth center or at my home). Plus, we'd be the same distance from the hospital (just in case) either way. So after discussing it with my husband, we made the leap and went ahead and did it at home.
I always wanted a birth center birth as opposed to a home birth mostly because I just felt like it was a nice "middle ground" between a hospital birth and home. I initially felt a bit "safer" going the birth center route. But I ended up feeling totally safe during the home birth experience. Our next baby will definitely be another home birth.
I decided to have a home birth because I had a very hard traumatizing hospital birth with my 3rd. I wanted to have him at the birth center but my insurance company kept giving me the runaround and I decided to go to the naval hospital. When I got pregnant with our 4th I knew that I would never go through that again and thats how I decided to deliver at home.