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Ok.. I am due in February but I feel like I am still getting use to being pregnant. I am starting to really consider a natural birth but I can't seem to make myself commit to it. The more I read about it the more I want to do it but idk... I'm so new at this I feel like I'm so reliant on everyone's opinions.
What I want is to become committed to this so that I don't swade back and forth on the idea.
what made you so determined to do a natural birth? How were you able to go through with it even when the pain was so bad that most women give in? I guess what's holding me back is the thought that I'll commit to it and then not be able to go through with it.
I've had a medicated birth and an unmedicated birth at home. The medicated birth sucked. I was disconnected from the whole experience (and it was just an epidural), I had side effects from it that lingered for a long time, I was very drowsy as was my son, made BFing hard because of the drowsyness, I couldn't walk for a long time afterwords, etc. With ds2 it was so much better. I felt great after birth.
Pain is different for everyone. I have attended many births and I can say that most of the moms I attend that have unmedicated births say the pain wasn't bad at all, not the worst thing they've felt, or that it was painful but didn't last long. In my case I wouldn't describe it as pain. Majority of my labor, like 98% of it, was just like regular menstrual cramps. Then at transition, which is right before pushing, it got intense. But it still wasn't painful. It was intense because the contractions were on top of eachother instead of having some down time in between. All I wanted to do was gulp water at that point, but knew I should only sip (so I didn't vomit from too much water). Transition usually only lasts a few minutes, sometimes an hour, really depends on many things. Being able to be medicated free to be able to move while in transition helps a lot. Then everything stopped for about 10 minutes (seemed like longer). No contractions, nothing. After that I felt my body push, no contractions (well not like I was having in labor). It felt like my vagina was trying to vomit, that involuntary feeling of your chest vomiting, is how it felt down there. It didn't hurt at all, was weird though. I had no ring of fire (and I've never heard anyone say that the ring of fire was painful either). After he was born I was on a huge birth high of oxytocin. I felt so good and amazing. I felt really happy, wasn't tired at all, so in love with everyone who was there, I even told DH I wanted to have sex with him and that high lasted for a long time. Even in the next few days I felt well rested (eventhough I had gotten up every 30 minutes to nurse) and energetic but I did take it easy. It was just crazy.
Mama to G, L & twins F & M
Started off 2013 homebirthing suprise twins Fia Celesta & Maddalena Isabella
Natural birth is something that you will follow through on ONLY if you have really strong personal convictions about the issue/a personal philosophy and belief about birth and your body that supports natural birth.
My suggestion would be to read some books about Natural Childbirth and about our medical system: Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, Pushed, Thinking Woman's Guide to Childbirth, and books related to that. Watch documentaries like Pregnant in America and Business of Being Born.
I had 2 normal epidural births with no issues. Nothing traumatizing or horrible about them, but there was also nothing GREAT about them. The more I learned about birth as a normal physiological experience, the more I knew it was a normal bodily function and nothing to be afraid of. I've gone on to have two natural births since then. Neither of which, I would describe as super painful. My personal experience is that right when it gets super difficult and intense, I know that it's almost over and I'm about to meet my baby. That's just how my body works. I have see women have some more difficult labors than I have had and those are the times when I say you really need to know why you are doing what you are doing and it has to be based on YOUR convictions and has to have deep routes in your spirit and not based on based on what anyone else says. It's great to get inspiration and encouragement from others, but I would work really hard to develop your own beliefs about birth that will sustain you through hard times.
Natural birth is something that you will follow through on ONLY if you have really strong personal convictions about the issue.
I agree with this! If you go into birth with the, 'I'll give natural a try and maybe I'll get an epidural" I can pretty much guarantee you'll end up with an epidural.
For me, it came down to risks and benefits. I researched the various pain relief methods and all came with risks for me and/or the baby. Some are serious risks, some are minor. Frankly,I was not willing to put my baby at risk simply to avoid pain. I decided that unless it was medically necessary I would deal with the pain without chemical pain relief. Once I had made that decision, I did not consider them an option any longer -- especially not during delivery.
I found labor and delivery very intense, and delivery very painful, but it was all completely manageable, especially during the labors I was able to shower or take a bath and always with moving around. Was it worth it? In my opinion, absolutely! I have done it now five times, and plan to, God willing, do it again in February.
My advice to you is to research the options for pain relief thoroughly. It's so important to know exactly what you're risking so you can decide if you're willing to risk it.
Brooke, happy mama to one girl (9), and four boys (7, 5, 3, and 2) and a surprise post-vasectomy miracle baby born February 7.
I always wanted one but I didn't know how to fully commit to it. My hospital was NOT NCB friendly so I knew it was going to be hard to do. I figured I could just go into it and try as hard as I could to hold out on the drugs........ That would have been a huge mistake.
Luckily my OB pissed me off soo bad at my 24 week appt that I left her office that day and never looked back. I immediately found my birth center and had my first appt at 26 weeks. I had made my final decision then.
Well I'll say that for my births it wasn't an experience where I had to power through the pain or anything. Most of my labor is perfectly pleasant, maybe mildly uncomfortable. Transition did feel overwhelming, but it really lasts only a few minutes so at that point there's nothing to be done anyways (and I knew it was coming!). So so SO much of it I credit to mental preparation. If you fight the contractions and panic and try to lay down in the wrong position it WILL hurt a lot. If you work with your body and relax and let the contractions come and go then it will be a lot more pleasant.
I definitely agree with reading some books - I liked Childbirth Without Fear for giving me that amazing pumped-up "wow this is so awesome, I can do this!" kind of feeling.