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December 5th, 2012, 06:39 PM
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I'm left completely speechless and so, so shocked. For those of you who are located in the Atlanta, GA area, you may be able to relate to/understand where I'm coming from, especially. Excuse the length of this post but I really need a place to vent my frustration...

I began seeing my midwife Janet Fedullo in ~August or September. She is (was) a part of Alpharetta Women's Specialists, which was one of only two waterbirth-friendly practices that accepted my insurance. Immediately, I wasn't very impressed. She was very scattered, and very, very rushed. I never felt like I was getting all of the information I needed considering this is my first pregnancy. However, I didn't have many options other than ISIS...Flash forward to November. I go in for my visit, and, surprisingly, receive information about a sudden "merge". Alpharetta Women's Specialists were supposed to be merging with ISIS at the end of November. I was excited about this, because I would most likely have a better experience with another midwife. I hoped. Upon leaving my appointment, I was told they would call to schedule in about a week.

A week later, I receive a call. They said the merge was delayed (however, they refused to give a reason why or specify about when the move would be taking place) and that they would still be in the same office. I scheduled my visit with them (for today, Dec. 5). Today, I go into the office...only to be greeted by entirely NEW (and seemingly temporary) staff. The lady at the desk was exceptionally rude, and when I stepped on the scale she even laughed and made a comment about my weight gain! I was so embarrassed and upset. They rushed me through the urine sample, even knocking on the door several times to ask me if I was finished (I was in there for a total of about 3-4 minutes...) I honestly didn't understand the rush. I finally get back to the room to see Janet.

Surprise! Janet informs me she's pregnant. I had no idea, I couldn't tell and she never mentioned it to me before (although she swears she did)...turns out, she's due in March as well. She then tells me that she is planning to take maternity leave in February and unfortunately hasn't been able to find a replacement and for unspecified reasons the merge with ISIS is no longer happening. She handed me a stack of medical records about my pregnancy, and told me I needed to find a new midwife. All with a straight face as if it were nothing. She did manage to tell me that my only option at this point would be to see a CNM at North Fulton, Michele Clark, who she said wasn't an advocate of natural birth and is used to dealing with high risk cases, due to my insurance.

I didn't know what to say. My jaw dropped and I remained speechless. First because of the fact that she didn't bother to tell me she was expecting the same month I was due...so for 6 months I've been under the impression that she would be delivering my baby. Second, because now, 3 months away from giving birth, I was just handed my records and told to find a new midwife...so, on top of holiday stress and getting the final touches on the nursery, gathering baby items, etc, I have to find and become comfortable with a woman who isn't even connected to natural birth. She has also only been at the hospital since August, which makes me so, so uncomfortable.

I realize this is my only option due to location and insurance, but I wish so badly it didn't have to happen this way. I'm so panicked and I know the stress is not good for me. Today was just awful, and I needed to share this experience. If you're still reading, thank you.
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December 5th, 2012, 07:33 PM
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I simply have no words!! How extremely rude and unprofessional. Take this as lesson number one on trusting your gut as a new Mommy. Im so sorry you were treated this way. I live outside of Atlanta and travel an hour one way (sometimes more) to use my midwife practice at Intown Midwifery. Theyre amazing and do water births and are very pro NCB. May be worth looking into for you. All of their claims are filed under Dr. Bootstaylor so check with your insurance to see if he participates in their network.
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December 5th, 2012, 07:38 PM
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Wow, I'm so sorry. This sounds kinda like the time I went in for my MW appointment and they had a MW student there who was rushing me through the whole process. It bothered me because my original MW isn't like that at all and she's able to answer all the questions with patience but, let's just say if that were to turn into my MW I'd be pretty pissed. She def needs more practice before she becomes a CNM, not just watching births but how to deal with patients. I really suggest, if you can, to get yourself a Doula so it can make this L+D situation a bit easier to deal with and when you need support, one on one, a shoulder to lean on and great motivation that would be way better for you even if your having the baby at a hospital. She can be your coach no matter what horrible Dr. your dealing with at the time because in reality she really does care and will take the time to get to know you and your baby. I'm really sorry this is happening to you, I would be heartbroken honestly because having a MW has been the best thing to happen to me in this pregnancy for me besides family/friend support.
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December 5th, 2012, 09:12 PM
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I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. You are not the only one. Did Janet not mention anything about Kim (the midwife who she is merging with)? Part of the chaos is because Kim's son (9 yrs old) suddenly died from pneumonia on Thanksgiving day. That event along with Janet's pregnancy (I can't believe she didn't say anything before now!) has kind of turned that practice into complete chaos. It sucks.

Have you looked into Intown Midwifery?
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December 5th, 2012, 09:35 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to read my post, ladies...so kind! I've heard wonderful things about Intown but unfortunately they do not accept my insurance. I have looked in to hiring a doula, and I also have a (former) doula friend, Crystal, who has been very helpful throughout this process. I don't think that I can afford to actually hire one currently, though, as much as I'd like to.

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I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. You are not the only one. Did Janet not mention anything about Kim (the midwife who she is merging with)? Part of the chaos is because Kim's son (9 yrs old) suddenly died from pneumonia on Thanksgiving day. That event along with Janet's pregnancy (I can't believe she didn't say anything before now!) has kind of turned that practice into complete chaos. It sucks.

Have you looked into Intown Midwifery?
She actually didn't mention anything about that! I can definitely understand now why they wouldn't be merging. Up until this post, I actually didn't even know the name of the midwife she was merging with.

Needless to say, Janet has left me in the dark in a lot of different ways...I almost feel like I wasn't taken seriously because she knew she wouldn't be dealing with me past Jan/Feb (although it would have been great to know that before now...). I do feel awful for Kim, and I can totally understand the issues on that end. At this point, I have to bite the bullet and take what I've been given. It might take a bit of extra effort with this midwife as far as convincing her of my birth plan, but I don't have another choice. I really wish there were more options in this area...Next time (if I have another child) I will most likely have a home birth. This experience has definitely scared me.
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December 5th, 2012, 09:47 PM
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Maybe you can look around for a beginners experience Doula, where she is just grduating from school and is looking to see what a birth is like so the charge is either very very low or free. I luckily found myself a Doula like that and there is no charge which is great because I'm the first in my family to do a very natural waterbirth and no one can give me major advice or support to deal with this, esp my Fiance since this will be our first child. I'm super sorry!
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Maybe you can look around for a beginners experience Doula, where she is just grduating from school and is looking to see what a birth is like so the charge is either very very low or free. I luckily found myself a Doula like that and there is no charge which is great because I'm the first in my family to do a very natural waterbirth and no one can give me major advice or support to deal with this, esp my Fiance since this will be our first child. I'm super sorry!
That's a great idea, I haven't actually thought of that. Thank you for the suggestion!
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December 6th, 2012, 05:23 AM
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I know of MANY wonderful student doulas who are looking for their certification births. Everyone who wants a doula deserves one! I can help find you one!

Also, PM me and we'll see about finding a care provider who is awesome, who will take your insurance. There is a single midwife out of AMC who is doing water birth as well. She doesn't take a huge patient load, but she is SUPER sweet and an awesome midwife. I can try to gather together your options and send them to you. Just Pm me and let me know if you are interested.
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Hey there,

I'm in the Atlanta area too and I just sent you a PM. I'm toward the Athens area. I don't know if that's an option for you, but if you want, I can give you the information for my midwife group. They don't do water birth though, but if you're stuck, my midwife is fantastic.
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That's a great idea, I haven't actually thought of that. Thank you for the suggestion!
No problem! Just stay positive, there's a solution for everything
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December 6th, 2012, 05:13 PM
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That is just ridicules! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this! I don't know your financial situation, but Intown also has a self pay option that's pretty reasonable... I hope you find someone who you are happy and comfortable with! You deserve better!
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Also, not sure if you're interested or where you live, but Linda Segal, CNM with Intown Midwifery, also has her own privet home-birth practice with another CNM, under Dr Bootstaylor. She lives in Fayetteville, and her partner lives in Bremen. That's who I'm using. They don't take insurance though... but she is SO sweet!!

https://sites.google.com/site/mamahomebirth/
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At this point I am strongly considering a homebirth, so thank you for the link!
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December 7th, 2012, 06:25 AM
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Two things I forgot to mention and thought of last night after I was in bed

1) Because Linda delivers at AMC with intown and has hospital privileges, if a transfer would ever be necessary, She would go with you and continue care! I just think that's SO COOL!

2) If you are further east, there is another CNM, Natalie Whitworth, in the Covington/Atlanta/Athens area who was trained with InaMay and the Intown midwives, and is now doing Home births. At Southeastern Midwifery, we offer nurse-midwifery services and provide preventative, holistic health care. Our certified nurse-midwife offers home birth in Georgia, primarily within the greater metro-Atlanta area.
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I had luck contacting DONA International for their list of Doula's who are in training. I contacted a few and found one for significantly cheaper than the local going rate which seems to be around $750. Mine is $100 and she'll even be fully done with all of her training by the time of the birth of this little one. But because I contacted her while she was still in training, she'll honor her training fee instead of bumping up
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December 7th, 2012, 02:52 PM
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I'm so happy to see all of these responses. And glad to see you thinking about home birth Lots of great options if you decide to go that route. (Same cost as paying out of pocket for Intown )
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Well, I'm taking this weekend to look at all of my options and sift through every possibility with DH. He is a little scared of the thought of homebirth, but we shall see. Thank you all for the responses and information, it has definitely helped quite a bit! I will keep you all updated, of course.
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December 7th, 2012, 04:03 PM
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I just wanted to encourage you to call and set up consultations with these midwives (they're free). Most couples find their worry melts away after talking through their fears and concerns with the midwife. Best of luck to you!
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I just wanted to encourage you to call and set up consultations with these midwives (they're free). Most couples find their worry melts away after talking through their fears and concerns with the midwife. Best of luck to you!
Oh yes...that is definitely something that I will probably spend most of the end of the month doing. Hopefully we can have all of this figured out within the next couple of weeks and I can have a little time to relax. With the holidays it just makes it all a little overwhelming, I think. But you're completely right, I'm sure talking to a few of these midwives will make me feel much, much better. As well as the list of doulas I have been sent. Thank you so much!
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December 7th, 2012, 10:39 PM
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I'm so glad you've gotten so much concrete advice here! And I'm glad you're moving on. It sounds like a horrible experience, and even if things were chaotic with the midwives and their personal lives, that is no excuse for the intake staff to treat you the way that they did. I hope that all around in the end, you end up with a situation that is better than you could have imagined for the birth of your little one this spring.

(ETA: Also, a midwife that doesn't support NCB? I didn't even know there was such a thing!)
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