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Hi ladies! I've been on JM since getting my BFP back at the end of september (EDD June 3rd). First pregnancy, unplanned, HUGE surprise. Anyway, I've wanted a natural childbirth since the idea of having kids crossed my mind when I was much younger, but now that it's here...I'm pretty scared. I know I want an unmedicated birth. I know that I want to walk during labor to help with the contractions and I surely do NOT want to be induced unless absolutely necessary. What scares me is the fact that I know NOTHING about labor and delivery. I know facts and medical terminology and all that jazz, but that's nothing compared to experience. I guess my first question is: What did your contractions feel like? The real ones. I think I've been having braxton hicks for weeks and weeks now when I over do it, but nothing painful yet. I've had short back aches, which I guess could be BH, too. I know that they're not "real" until they become regular, but what did your "real" ones feel like?
I'll leave it at that for now and I hope to be coming back to this thread often as it looks like a great place for info and inspiration on top of my DDC.
Welcome!! I definitely remember feeling the way you are now before my first baby. The unknown is scary!
The problem with telling you how labor feels is that every woman and every baby is different.
My first felt like extremely strong/painful braxton hicks (all over tightening) that would radiate to my lower back. It was more tiring than painful.
Second I had back labor and pretty much it felt like someone holding a blow torch to my lower back. I actually thought for the first few hours that I was having constipation pains, it was fairly similar.
Third each contraction would start as a burning sensation above my pubic bone and then slowly spread upwards and around the sides. Towards the end it became more of an all over burning tightness.
Shes right ^^. Each person and pregnancy it's different... The common explanation for them is really bad cramps that make your entire stomach and even back tighten up... And they won't last.. It will come and go..
BUT the good news is when it comes down to it.. You will know... You may not be totally aware of them or what they are in the beginning but as it keeps going and getting stronger you will know...
I just had a conversation about this with another student midwife a couple days ago while she was in labor. It was her 3rd baby, but her first labor. She said that "No one could prepare her for this. The way contractions feel is beyond words. Each one is different than the one preceding it. How can one compare a labor to another?"
I have to agree. All four of my labors were different from one another. I did have one painful labor. But I also had three labors where my contractions couldn't be described as painful. I would say intense and pressure were good words to describe my contractions. Like every muscle in my body wants to flex and tense radiating from my abdominal. Like diarrhea cramps mixed with menstrual cramps.
And then there is a shift when you start pushing. I always say those contractions feel like your body is trying to throw up out your butt. Lol. Those are like an involuntary heaving out of the baby.
So hard to describe. I don't know if we have words to describe it.
Mine have always felt like the worlds worst period cramps. They never get closer together, they will go 3min-5min-9min-3min-12 min my whole labor. I have never really experienced the ring of fire some women describe.
I agree that no two women will have exactly the same experience.
Jenifer....The Queen Bee
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