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When I told people that I was going to have my son without an epidural, people laughed at me and asked me why I wouldn't want that relief? No one actually thought that I was going to be able to do it. I was just wondering if any of you experienced people doubting you or acting like you weren't strong enough to go through labor. I did have my son without an epidural, and I made it through just fine.
I've never had any mean comments regarding my natural birth with Ds. I got some comments from my parents about choosing to homebirth this one but that was completely out of ignorance. They're all for natural birth, though.
I talked to an old friend on the phone and told her I was having a homebirth. Her response, "Nay, I don't think I've ever told you where babies come from! Now, I need to you to get to the hospital, get some drugs, and get some epidural!" I was sitting there rolling my eyes at her. I reminded her that Ds was completely drug-free, and besides, she's never even been pregnant!
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A lot of people laughed at me too, but I didn't care, especially the second time around. Most of it was just ignorance or trying to be "helpful." Most people thought I was nuts for having a midwife instead of a doctor, but that was also their ignorance speaking as well.
"and you know.. the outcome is always a baby.. and yes, you can choose to birth and not feel it.
but the high that you get when you allow your body do what it is designed for lasts soooo mcuh longer~ it is a bonus that we get when we choose not to take the drugs. i am still vibrating off it!!
they dont know what they are missing. maybe noone told them about this amazing high!! oh well.... their loss~"
What a wonderful way to put it. I couldnt have put it any better.
I choose to feel this birth rather than Not feel it.
And yes, most of them dont really know what theyre missing. Funny how all the women who got drugs always comment most about the pain. And the ones that went naturally - they comment on thejoy, the ecstatic feelings, the sense of accomplishment & awe.
The ones who have had drugs usually have talked to very few women who talked about childbirth as a wonderful fulfilling experience and are usually amazed that anyone views it as such.
<span style="font-family:Verdana">My step-mom and a couple of "friends" said things like "oh, once it gets going you'll be begging for drugs!", and seemed deeply disappointed that I managed to have the births I wanted. My step-mom, in particular, seems to think that I have natural births, breast feed, ect just to make her feel bad that she didn't - b/c obviously my births are all about her On any other subject she's actually a nice woman but we cannot discuss our parenting ideas b/c she feels I'm trying to make her feel bad - I'm not, honestly! - I've never criticised any of her choices for my brothers. When I told I was having the twins at home she was so horrifed you'd have thought I'd suggested going out and kicking some puppies for fun! </span>
A lot of people laughed at me too, but I didn't care, especially the second time around. Most of it was just ignorance or trying to be "helpful." Most people thought I was nuts for having a midwife instead of a doctor, but that was also their ignorance speaking as well.[/b]
I had a midwife and she was wonderful! I'm sad to say that I moved about 2 hours away and I have a regular doctor now. I would love for a midwife to deliver my second!