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I am a bit freaked out that my second labor will be too short. I want to labor at home for as long as possible because I want a natural hospital birth, but at the same time, my first labor was only a total of 9 hours. I had an appointment that morning and knew I was having Braxton hicks contractions, but thought they felt different. My appointment was at 9, I was dilating and effacing. I still thought it would be a while, but my midwife told me to go home, eat, and attempt to nap if I could. I was determined to get some laundry done at my mother-in-laws house, but John convinced me to come home. I waited an hour or so, and then called John to tell him to come home. I don't know how long we waited, but we went back to the midwife, she checked me and told me to go back home, wait two hours (no more), then go to the hospital. She knew I wanted to labor at home as long as I could. I do know that we got to the hospital between 3-4 and Levi was born shortly before 7. I am sure that I was labor for a while, but it wasn't uncomfortable and I could sleep just fine. I thought they were just Braxton Hicks. So, even if I were to count the hours that it wasn't uncomfortable, the labor was only 9 hours. That isn't a long time! So this time around, I am hoping that it is just a tad shorter, but I don't want it to be ridiculously short. Watch me end up being one of those women who have a ridiculously long second labor instead of shorter. lol What have your experiences been with a natural first and second birth? My hospital is only 30 minutes away, but the thing that worries me is getting the babysitter here on time and calling my family who lives 2.5 hours away. My mom is my "main babysitter," but we do have back ups close to us in case she isn't able to be here in time.
At the same time, I like to labor with just my husband, so I don't want a bunch of people around either if it is going to be a while...but if it is only going to be a few hours, they may just have to be there and such. What have your experiences been? I am going to talk to my midwife about a "game plan" at my next appointment, but wanted to ask you ladies until then.