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After reading our newest member's birth story, it made me wonder.... how many of you had to write birth plans to achieve your natural childbirths? If you didn't write one, do you regret it? If you did write one, do you feel it was helpful?
With my first I was clueless. I never read a thing, never even once considered making a birth plan (not sure if I had ever heard the term). I figured why "scare" myself (gotta admit, most birth stories in the mainstream public are terrifying). And that I would do what I needed to do to get the baby out.
The goddesses of birth were smiling on me that day. I had a good midwife on shift and showed up at the hospital with no idea I was in real labor and was 8cm. A few laps around the ward and a few pushes later, I popped out my kid.
Would I recommend that? Not really. It could have gone a really different way. I did write birth plans for my second and third. Did anything in their labor follow it? Yeah, a few things. Was it everything I wrote out that I wanted to happen/not happen? Not even close. In fact, my second and third were far more medicalized than my first. Partially by circumstances. But I don't think my birth plan was really that healthy of an exercise. I think with our fourth I will just wing it again. I know basically what I want and don't want, but there was something about writing out every detail (maybe not every one) that made me still feel like I "failed" despite having a vaginal, med-free, bonded birth (which basically is what i want!) So I think they can have negatives. I do seem to fall into the camp of being more go-with-the-flow. But it depends on what works for a mama and where her comfort level lies.
The status quo at my BC is to do pretty much all the things I'd want. My MWs had me write one to be sure we were all on the same page but I never actually needed it. I had written 2 additional birth plans in the event of a transfer and on the event of an emergency c/s. I'm very glad I didn't have to use them but having them on file helped me acknowledge the possibility of complications, make plans for how I'd handle a given situation, and then bury those thoughts down deep.
My only plans were to do what felt right at the time, avoid induction/ c-section like they were the plague, and request immediate STS/ delayed clamping. I read a lot of birth stories of every kind and I feel that gave me a reasonable idea of what to expect - which amounted to anything at all could happen. I knew that birth was not something that could be planned and set very few goals.
My only regret was not having a strong willed advocate with me to fight the doctor. I wish so much that I had asked someone with some b*lls to be there with me since her father was about as useful as a wet noodle.
I wrote one with connor but didnt even end up bringing my things to the hospital cuz it never really occurred to me that i was problly in labor I just thought something was wrong
I guess the act of writeing it helped me sort out what all I was trying to achive but to be honest im kinda glad I didnt bring it going with the flow and doing what was necissary just worked better for me....... this time no birth plan.... i still know what im shooting for but i dont need a peice of paper for that.
I didn't write one with my first because my midwife's normal routine for birth was completely in line with what I wanted. I helped myself by visualizing some of the birth in a relaxing way, with a ton of privacy. But I left everything I was unsure about (like labor positions, pain-relief techniques, birth positions, etc.) up in the air because you really can't plan for that. I just listened to my body when the time came
This time, I'm giving birth in the hospital so I am bringing along a birth plan. But it's basically just a short and sweet list of my "preferences." Just so that the L&D staff, whom I won't meet until the big day, get the point that I'm aiming for an intervention-free natural birth. I'm thinking my best tool in the hospital will be keeping my calm. If I'm calm and relaxed, I feel like I can go with the flow and handle whatever comes.
I've never had one. With my first (hospital birth) I do kind of wish I had one at least for post-partum care. The hospital kind of sucked on that end. Baby 2 and 3 were out of the hospital and figured the only real reason I would transfer to the hospital was if there were a medical emergency in which case most things would be out of my hands. Fourth baby was a planned homebirth that did become a medical emergency/hospital transfer. As expected, I pretty much handed over the reigns to the OB to save us both. Hubby was great at expressing my wishes while I was in recovery and baby was in the NICU (such as refusing formula/bottles). No regrets about not having a specific birth plan.
Kellisa, Mama to:
Courtney, Nola, Kya, and Whitney
Breastfeeding Peer Counselor, training to be an IBCLC!
I did have 1 with my hospital birth w/ dd1, but I don't think it helped. The nurses didn't really bother w/ me because of my MW but my MW was backsliding on some things when we were at the hospital (like eating) and interventions. I ignored her, I was to out of it to pay attention to her anyway
Didn't need one with dd2 (homebirth) and won't have one this time either.
I filled out an online birth plan with my first. That was a joke. I must confess that I didn't really make birth plans with my others- but I had learned a few lessons and knew what I needed to know by then