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Hey all, it looks pretty quiet in here but I will post and see who responds. I am currently pregnant with #3 and striving towards my first natural birthing experience. My first two babies were inductions with epidurals and after I truly horrendous epi experience with my last baby, I have no desire to ever go that route again. It took 3 different people many, many tries to get the epidural properly placed and I felt all of it so they kept shooting me up with more numbing medication. Basically it resulted in my being unable to get out of the bed on my own until 12 hours after delivery (wheeled to the recovery room on the bed) and caused me to be unable to urinate so they made me keep my IV port in overnight, which was very uncomfortable. Up to 6 months after my birth I had pain at the epidural site and earlier in this current pregnancy I began having discomfort at the site again.
Sooooo I don't see myself ever willingly going that route again.
I do have a question. I have never done any type of child birth classes. Is this something I should do or if I do my research and read up/watch videos, can I go without? I do like the idea of doing the Bradley Classes but from what I have seen they are pretty expensive and because of my husbands schedule being every changing, he would likely very rarely get to attend with me which I think would somewhat defeat the purpose of it. Are there other natural type classes that aren't so long and involved that I can look into?
I do think I will be hiring a doula this time around as well. When is a good time to start looking into that?
It's totally do-able to do a natural birth without paying outrageous prices for classes. All I have ever done is research birth until my eyes bleed ( I love it though ) and really understand our bodies and vaginal birthing etc...
Understanding how nature intended for us to birth and how all the normal hormones work with us during labor instead of hospital medications interfering w/ those signals is amazing and empowering IMO.
I read this book (and a lot of online information, JM, spinning babies.. just google!) with dd1:
I started reading it again just after this BFP and it is kinda cheesy but it's still filled with a lot of information. This book had me so excited for birth that I was way too happy to be in labor and I didn't feel pain at all (whether that was from being excited or b/c I was just lucky enough to have a painless birth idk... dd2 def. hurt lol).
I am also considering getting a doula this time b/c my wishes for a birth this time are drastically different. I'm not sure when to look into one, maybe 1/2 through? I know you have a few appts w/ them to discuss things.....
Also, this board is kind slow, but feel free to stop by the Home Birth board b/c there are a few of us over there that keep it active and you can ask questions about natural birth there if no one is responding here
Edit: Oh, I forgot to add that hypnobabies is another popular method for natural birthing and I'm going to try that out this time! I naturally get into "the zone" and in a good meditation place in my head during labor so I think hypnobabies will be up my alley and fun to try out!
I did the Hypnobabies at-home course (or most of it - I started late and dd decided she was ready to come at 37w5d so I didn't finish ) for the same reasons (cost, scheduling, etc.) and was happy with it. I also spent a lot of time reading and learning about the process and generally normalizing birth for myself. I ended up having a pretty great experience.
I would probably start looking for a doula anytime. There's no rush at this point, but I don't think you can start looking too early.
I think it's awesome that you're interested in a different birthing path! I'm sorry your past experiences have been miserable and hope that things are different for you this time around. IMO, it definitely sounds like you're setting yourself up for success!
I had both of my children without pain meds. I won't call them natural because I had to be induced for both one due to medical reasons (cholestasis) and the other because the dr, unbeknownst to me, stripped my membranes without my consent and tossed me into a labor that was slow- that my son didn't tolerate well so I had to be given pitocin to speed things up. I'm hoping to avoid pitocin this go 'round.
What I can tell you is that like you, I was more afraid of a needle in my back than childbirth. I'm not gonna lie and say it didn't hurt a *$&$^!!. It did, but I also quickly learned that if allowed a woman will find her "zone" and be able to work through it.
I second the other ladies who recommended reading. I still read even though I've done it twice. I know the mechanics and I know what I need to do to get through it. IMO the core of the natural birth process is trusting your body and believing in your ability to work with it, not against it.
I'm 8 weeks now and after 2 hospital births I'm very seriously considering a home birth this time.
You don't need a class, especially if you have done your home work. A class can be beneficial in other ways. It might help to give your DH confidence as a birth partner (this is the primary way I benefited from Hypnobirthing classes). You might also learn about the birth atmosphere where you're giving birth. Ex: which nurses to avoid, which doc to turn to if your baby presents breech, etc. Having community is really important. BUT, if you can find a way to get that without shelling out hundreds of bucks, you're good.