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So im thinking about my birthing plan (Since im due in 6 Weeks ) I really want to be at home for as much as possible... Im almost thinking its going to make my mom mad but I want to go to my MIL house and have my mom come over there and stay there for as much of the labor as possible... The one lady that I really trust is a nurse and is VERY well educated on doing homebirths and such... I would love to be there and just be able to lay in the bath tub and relax and not be at the hospital... Have 911 already dialed on the phone so I can say alright call em... BUT MAKE SURE ITS THE RIGHT ###### HOSPITAL!! lol (shes closer to one hospital than mine) And If I accidently wait and have the baby at home and then go in is that bad? Like I have GBS So I def have to get the herbs BUT I have to anyways cause im telling them I dont want the antibiotics... I just have to talk to the lady about this... And if anyone disrespects my wishes Ill go to a ######en hotel! lol....
OMG Am I totally out of my mind? Do I need to just go to the hospital when I go into labor? Am I a bad person for wanting to wait out labor at home for as long as I can and if I can "accidently" deliver at home?
I've believed for a long time (heck, since I found out I was pregnant!) that my doctors had my due date wrong. I was charting and had been for while so I knew my cycle inside and out, but the OB just would not listen when I tried to explain that I do NOT have a 28 day cycle and ovulate on day 14. I even brought him my charts and he STILL would not change it.
With that in mind, I think I'm due about nine days earlier than they have me down for, so when I was having contractions last week, I told my husband we were just going to wait at home for a while and see if things started progressing. Basically I wanted to stay at home and labor as much as possible so that when I finally went in, they would have to let me deliver instead of giving me more Terbutaline!
Obviously, we did not deliver. Contractions were going strong and consistent for about six hours and then WHAM! just stopped and never came back. Oh well.
If your hospital is close, and you have no worries about "making it in time" then I would certainly labor at home as long as possible. A couple of my friends that turned me on to natural childbirth in the first place are a single mother, and her 3 daughters who are all my age. When the girls have their babies, they stay with their mother. She cares for them until they feel that urge to push. At that point, she drags em to the car and rushes them to the hospital. I think this is really the best way to go about it, myself lol. If you are not at the hospital in time for the epi, it wont be pushed on you. If you REALLY wait long enough, you dont even get the antibiotics and IV because if youre pushing then they just dont have time! I cant wait around like that myself, if I want to make it to my birth center, because I have to drive for a little over an hour to get there.
Well, you know my opinion on the subject, LOL, but yeah labor for as LONG as possible at home. Also remember even w/o the antibiotics your baby only has a 1 in 100 chance of getting the infection, and that's if you even have GBS on the day of delivery, it changes from day to day. If I were you, I'd stick some garlic up there, chug some yogurt and get tested again, then you will have a negative scan on your chart and they won't bother you.
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No you're not crazy! You're trying to get the birth you want and deserve, that's like saying women who dump a potentially abusive SO are crazy. Honestly before I could get my DH to agree to a HB I threatened to check into a motel for the birth, this sounds far more sensible!
And remember even if you do, sadly, make it to the hospital "on time" they are at your mercy, not the other way around!
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I don't think you are crazy! My mom had two and a half of us at home. One of my brothers and my sister were both born at home. My sister was honestly an accident. My mom thought she had about one more hour, so oops! there she was! And I got to deliver her at 11 years old! It was super awesome! My brother was because they too were about an hour from a hospital and the ambulance didn't make it. I was almost born at home, but I decided to take a nap just before crowning giving them JUST enough time to get to the hospital (they only live about 2 min away), so all they had time to do when she got to the hospital was stick her in a bed and catch. I want to give birth like my mom! She had my sister, waited for the afterbirth and everything, let my dad cut the cord. Then she got up, took a shower, did some laundry, double checked her suitcase, wiped down my sister, THEN went to the hosptial. I <3 my mom!
I saw an OB all through my pg even though I was secretly planning a homebirth. I *technicallY* had a mw there, but not *really*. Shes not licensed, but was in attendance just in case. In the event something didnt go right, id have had to go to the hospital alone. But basically - according to my OB, I just *oops* didnt make it to the hospital. Ic alled hiis office after it was done, and said Id rather see him in office than go to the hospital. I mean really - if you have the baby at home, why go to the ohspital? He checked me out - iw as fine, i went home. I see no reason to call 911 or go to the hospital to stay. call your dr and ask to be checked, and tell them youre not going to be admitted.
Most of the tiems its just for "observation" - for what who the hell knows lol. Like youe gonna spontaneously combust afterwards? You know what to look for - bleeding, etc. Massage the uterus good, Im sure one of us could give you some postpartum instructions - I still have the document my MW gave me that she gives all her clients if youd like it
As for the baby - we just did everythign at home, didnt use a cord clamp or anything... a week later she saw he ped & had her PKU test done in office.
i definitley don't think you are crazy. i want to be at home as long as possible because i don't want to end up tied down to a bed. they do have tubs there and things but still. i want to be able to do what i want and figure out which position is comfy for me. i do plan to deliver in the hospital but i just want to take my time getting there. i told DH this and he is already scared for me to go natural let alone taking our time to get there. but oh well it isn't his choice haha!
Well, I had an unassisted birth...and I am learning to attend women in labor at home...so I think you ROCK for even letting yourself voice your inner most birth desires!
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) I really want to be at home for as much as possible... Im almost thinking its going to make my mom mad but I want to go to my MIL house and have my mom come over there and stay there for as much of the labor as possible... The one lady that I really trust is a nurse and is VERY well educated on doing homebirths and such... I would love to be there and just be able to lay in the bath tub and relax and not be at the hospital... Have 911 already dialed on the phone so I can say alright call em... BUT MAKE SURE ITS THE RIGHT ###### HOSPITAL!! lol (shes closer to one hospital than mine) And If I accidently wait and have the baby at home and then go in is that bad? Like I have GBS So I def have to get the herbs BUT I have to anyways cause im telling them I dont want the antibiotics... I just have to talk to the lady about this... And if anyone disrespects my wishes Ill go to a ######en hotel! lol.... 
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I want to give birth like my mom! She had my sister, waited for the afterbirth and everything, let my dad cut the cord. Then she got up, took a shower, did some laundry, double checked her suitcase, wiped down my sister, THEN went to the hosptial. I <3 my mom!
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