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I wanted to have a Lotus Birth, my midwife was all for it, but had to ask hospital staff and what not, they gave her the runaround and ended up saying that would be to much of a liability (bull skit) and that if I wanted to do that I would have to find a different hospital to deliver at.....so, we found a bedroom instead. I will be having a home Lotus Birth DH is still a bit unsure about it because I want an unassisted birth. (It would have been unassisted at the hospital too, we were going to lock ourselves in the bathroom and Opps a baby, lol.) But I know he will come around as I continue to answer his questions. His main concern was "What if something goes wrong?" I told him that the paramedics could be here in 2 and a half minutes (I have timed them in the past, lol) and once I said that, everything got a bit easier, lol. So, it looks like I'm joining the homebirth club.
Glad you guys made a decision. Im really surprised your hospital said that, in all reality - had you showed up & refused to allow them to cut the cord, theres nothing they could do. But this sounds like its all working out for the best b/c I know you had a lot of hesitancies. You wont have to worry about that pressure anymore.
Get some good books, make sure you & DH are prepared. Emergency Childbirth is a good easy read for how to handle minor emergency situations & its used to prepare a lot of paramedics for emergency births as well.
And if you can find a midwife to pick her brain at least, or a doula to be there fors upport, it wouldnt hurt. You may also find a MW who will be willing to provide care in pg, and not necessarily show up or only show up if half way through you change your mind (stranger things have happened!).
You will do wonderfully!
I debated wether or not I would do an unassisted with any future babies, and I would, but I do looooooooove my MW I see nothing wrong with a couple doing it so long as they are prepared, and know when to transport, know when to call for help, and when things are progressing normally.
Thanx!! I love my midwife too, unfortunatly she works under an OB and for the hospital, so she couldn't attend my homebirth. I will still be seeing her for regular care until Jenni is born and for my regular check-ups. I will have to find that book you mentioned, that is DH's only fear....that I won't be able to tell if something goes wrong, so if we both get prepaired on what to expect problem wise, I think he will be more comfy with this decision. I am 98% positive that I'd be able to tell if there was a problem.....but that isn't 100% so that worries him, lol.
Ugh, I can't believe that epidurals & every other intervention aren't seen as a 'liability', but having a totally 'natural' 'intervention' free labor & delivery is a 'liability'
Total & utter rubbish IMHO
~*Congrats*~ on making a decision, I hope that all goes well for you & that you have the wonderful birth that you desire
Thank you. And yes, she was my inspiration!!! I can honestly say that the first time I heard her say it I thought "What a freak" lol, then I started to research it, and now I intend to be that freak, lol.