I Can't Believe...

pepper73 · #1 May 3rd, 2011, 03:37 PM

...how incredibly in love I am with my BF. It stings a bit that I have just now found him at 37 but I keep reminding myself that everything happens for a reason. We've both been through some rough relationships before we found each other so I guess it makes us appreciate each other more. It makes me think of the song "Bless the Broken Road" "Bless the Broken Road-Rascal Flatts-YouTube . When I was younger I thought I would be married young and a young mom. Nothing turned out that way. And, after my divorce, I was certain I'd never want to get married again. I didn't see the point. Recently, my BF (who also had expressed similar feelings toward getting married) brought up how he would like to marry me and we've been talking about it ever since. It took me no thought at all to tell him that I would marry him. It makes me feel young again! We have decided that we are going to continue to focus on having a baby first but it warms my heart to know that someday soon we will be the family I always dreamed of.

Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing?

MomtoKatieB · #2 May 3rd, 2011, 05:27 PM

Your story could have been mine. In my late 30s, I found true love. I think that having really bad relationships in our past (both DH and I had been hurt by former mates) has made us appreciate one another more. We became parents when he was 35 and I was 38 in 2009.

Lyric · #3 May 3rd, 2011, 07:27 PM

Totally! I married at 22, then divorced at 32... then had another really painful relationship with a guy who beat me down emotionally for 3 years before finally leaving him and meeting my true love at 35. We often joke about how nice it would have been to have met each other earlier, but there's a large age difference between us... he's 8 years younger than me. So I don't think we would have worked too well if we'd met too much earlier... lol.

I do wonder what my life would have been like if I'd known him earlier, but everything happened exactly the way it needed to. He had to go through his own trials, and I had to experience the rest of the world to see just how amazing he truly is. <3

Lisap2008 · #4 May 3rd, 2011, 08:58 PM

This is my third marriage and DH's 2nd. I was in some pretty abusive marriages before he came along and it was pretty much instant love for us. we met online and talked online and by phone for the first few months then he flew here to meet me in person and we spent a month together and he asked me to marry him on mothers day, he has always wanted a family and now he has a instant family because my 4 girls are from previous marriages. anyway we got married in october that same year and he calls me his angel because his mother was passing away at the same time I came into his life. I was sad I never got to meet her only in my dreams I have. and now I have this huge desire to have a child with him .

BeckyM · #5 May 4th, 2011, 05:36 AM

Oh yeah, I can relate to this too. I married at 19, separated at 29 (divorce final 1 year later at 30). I met DH online thru eHarmony at almost 31, we married when I was 32. Started TTC at 33, it took us close to 2 years to get pg so we had our DS right before I turned 36. DH was also married once before as well, and was hurt badly. The moment we met, we connected instantly. Our 1st phone call lasted over 2 hours, it was if we'd known each other for years. We were instantly comfortable with each other.

I do sometimes think about how it would be if we'd known each other before, but I don't think it would have changed much. We were different people then, and I believe that our past is what shapes us to be the person we are today.

pepper73 · #6 May 4th, 2011, 05:43 AM

I'm glad so many of you can relate. It's so romantic!

GG1995 · #7 May 4th, 2011, 06:26 AM

DH and I met when I was about to turn 30.....he was 33. I had been divorced from my first husband about 8 months when I met DH. He had been in a few lengthy relationships, but had never been married. We met online thru Match.com.

We talked on the phone a few times and then met for dinner on March 15, 2006. We only lived about 30 minutes away from each other. We knew in an instant that there was chemistry there. It just felt RIGHT!

We were married on March 15, 2008.

We conceived DS on March 15, 2009....(our 1 year wedding anniversary)..........his due date was December 15, 2009.........exactly 40 weeks from March 15.

He came early on Dec. 6, 2009.

I always thought that I would be married with kids before I was 30, and always said that if I had not had any children by 30, then it wasn't meant to be and I probably wouldn't have any..........I used to think 30 was old!! LOL

Now look at me!! I am so HAPPY with my life!! I have an AMAZING DH............we are SOOOO IN LOVE with our DS......and now we are working on our next blessing!!

One of my favorite "sayings" that I have ever heard is........."You want to make God laugh? Try to make plans for your own life!" I do believe that everything happens for a reason and in God's time!

Lisap2008 · #8 May 4th, 2011, 07:22 AM

My first marriage I was 23 and my first DH was only 19 still a baby in many people eyes lasted about 10 years. second was at 34 , that only lasted 4 years .and married my new husband october 2008 at 39 years old, we started TTC right away due to my age and got pregnant in the first month trying but lost it at 5 weeks and continued ttc for a year and it was not happening for us . starting thinking I was too old .
so we stopped TTC last year then got a surprise BFP 2 months after I turned 41. still dont know how I got pregnant that month. but it gave me hope we can still conceive at this age and hopefully a healthy one . so I definatly agree with it being in Gods timing.

missy123 · #9 May 4th, 2011, 08:36 AM

Oh I totally get what you are feeling. I got married at 20... divorced at 27 swore off marriage forever. Raised the boys for 14 years on my own and met my now husband. We got married when I was 41 and are now going to have our baby together in November. I adore my husband...

Its an awesome feeling huh!

pepper73 · #10 May 4th, 2011, 08:59 AM

It is an awesome feeling! Although, right now I'm angry with my BF so I'm not feeling too romantic toward him at the moment. That will pass though and we'll go back to the bliss.

Lisap2008 · #11 May 4th, 2011, 04:50 PM

I understand we have our ups and downs too but its still way better then any of my other marriages were. most of our arguments are my fault due to hormones I think. we never stay mad for more then a few hours without making up, I guess that shows how in love we are.

Missy congrats on your pregnancy!.

MomtoKatieB · #12 May 4th, 2011, 05:56 PM

In regards to my first marriage, I have to use the same words that one of my friends used when she sent out announcements that she was taking back her maiden name. "Married the wrong man, gave him the wrong finger".

*SamF* · #13 May 5th, 2011, 06:30 AM

I understand the feeling too! Although DH was really my first 'real love', we didn't stay together, I married at 26, divorced at 37, spent way to long in a bad marriage. Then back with my DH now, and it really was like being teenagers again.

pepper73 · #14 May 5th, 2011, 08:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MomtoKatieB

"Married the wrong man, gave him the wrong finger".

LOVE that!!!

Quote:

Originally Posted by *SamF*

I understand the feeling too! Although DH was really my first 'real love', we didn't stay together, I married at 26, divorced at 37, spent way to long in a bad marriage. Then back with my DH now, and it really was like being teenagers again.

Sam, what a beautiful love story!! I'm so glad you're back with your true love!!

BeckyM · #15 May 6th, 2011, 05:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MomtoKatieB

"Married the wrong man, gave him the wrong finger".

I love this!!!

Lyric · #16 May 9th, 2011, 10:27 AM

I love these stories! My husband and I are just coming up to our three year mark from when we first started dating, and I'm still totally giddy over him. Romance at an older age - for me at least - is sooo much better than those impetuous, uninformed flings when I was younger.

mishy527 · #17 May 12th, 2011, 09:09 AM

I am reading these stories and it is like listening to mine. I married my first dh when I was 26 and it lasted 10 years. We stopped being partners and just friends. I had some rocky relationships if you want to call them that before I met my fiance. When we first met, I actually dated his friend for 2 weeks and I met up with a few months later and realized we had so much in common. We loved the same things, acted the same way and had the same personality. The problem was he is 10 years younger than me. He loves my children and has jumped into the father role without any issues. Their father still sees them but rarely. His new wife takes alot of his time. At first both of us has agreed that we didnt want children or marriage. But a year later I knew I wanted to share the same memories of having children that I did with my ex. We started ttc. Then we got engaged. I wish I did know him first before my ex, but he was 16 and not sure if it would have worked out then. But as said earlier things happen for a reason. Not sure when we will get married, working on having a child and getting our own house. But I am happy for now