Taking a break - already.

Shelley71 · #1 May 4th, 2011, 08:56 PM

We canceled the RE appointment. He's not ready to bring science into it especially because they don't treat single people and we'd have to pretend to be married. We're in a common law state, and that would legally marry us (he's an attorney).

I'm disgusted with the whole ordeal. I do not plan to track anything this month, except for using the monitor. I want it to still get to know me. Other than that, I'm already emotionally exhausted with all of this. Knowing that I'm not ovulating and that now I won't be able to get any answers about it, just turns me off to the whole thing.

I'm sure I'll change my mind, and probably sooner rather than later, but for today anyway, I just don't care anymore.

AF has never shown up this time, so far; I'm almost two weeks late. I'm not even hopeful because I never saw an ovulation. Any other time, I'd be testing daily. I've already seen 3 BFNs in the past three weeks, and I really don't want to see another. That's not to say that I'm not tempted, I just can't deal with it again.

Sorry to be such a downer, but ugh, this sucks.

*SamF* · #2 May 5th, 2011, 06:27 AM

I'm sorry Shelley!! I hope your SO comes around soon. I didn't realize that RE's wouldn't treat single people, wondering if it's just that doctor?

pepper73 · #3 May 5th, 2011, 08:29 AM

Oh Shelley, I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much stress. I am also surprised the RE won't treat single people....sounds like discrimination to me. I really hope your SO changes his mind so that you can at least get some answers and take it from there. Please keep us posted on any new developments.

Lisap2008 · #4 May 5th, 2011, 12:35 PM

Sounds like discrimination to me too. My OB turned me away for divorcing my husband and having my 4th baby out of wedlock, I was like "what"I had never heard of that before. anyway that was 8 years ago.

If your positive you dident ovulate you could try using pro-gest cream for 12 days then stop it to bring on AF. so sorry about the doctor .

Shelley71 · #5 May 5th, 2011, 08:17 PM

Thanks girls. The past three days have been a really low point for me. Today was a much better day. I even tested (still BFN) and I'm okay because I knew it would be. I just didn't want to have drinks tonight, just in case - so I checked.

I have NO idea what the deal is with the RE. If I'm still not Oing in a few more months, then I'm going to ask my OB to refer me to someone else. I think there are three more in the area. I will call them all first and ask them about their policy. I don't know if it's because we're in the middle of the stupid bible belt, or what, but I find it highly insulting!

I'm going to research this weekend about natural O boosters. Hopefully, I'll find something and be ready to start it as soon as AF does show.

pepper73 · #6 May 6th, 2011, 05:08 AM

Have you thought of using soy isoflavones? I used them when I was first TTC a few years ago and had pretty good luck. My cycles seem to have gotten better since then so I don't take them anymore but I was impressed back then. Here's a link with some info: Soy Isoflavones I think the main thing to make sure you do is only take them for those few days. Also, when I was taking them, I had no side effects so that was good. I'm not sure if anyone else has had side effects though.

BeckyM · #7 May 6th, 2011, 06:05 AM

Looking at your chart, I don't think you have O'd and if you haven't O'd then AF isn't going to show up. **hugs** I know it is frustrating, I had those super long cycles to deal with quite a bit when I was TTC. That is insane that your RE won't treat you cause you're single. That doesn't make any sense at all. Do you have any others in your area? How about a regular OB/Gyn, they can typically do a few things. Mine did before I started working with a RE, he diagnosed my PCOS, gave me progesterone to bring on AF if I had not O'd by CD40ish. The progesterone does work, as it tricks your body into thinking it has O'd so you enter the LP stage and AF will arrive.

Shelley71 · #8 May 6th, 2011, 04:56 PM

I've heard about the Soy, but haven't really read a lot about it. I'm going to look into it.

I'm going to give myself three more months on our own, and that will put us at the "official" six month mark. Then, I'll call my OB and ask about another specialist OR ask him to just do some preliminary tests. But, for now, I'm chilling out a little and I'm not going to get so obsessed this next cycle. I've decided to go ahead and do charting, etc., but not to the point of distraction.

Lyric · #9 May 9th, 2011, 10:13 AM

I'm in agreement on the RE... sounds like discrimination to me. Whether a couple decides to sign their relationship with a piece of paper is up to the couple, no one else.

I'm curious, though - is there a reason your SO is so against marrying? I have friends that have avoided it for tax reasons, and others who just never saw a major need for it, but if it's getting in the way of your being able to get medical help... (although I still think you just find another doctor!)