need to tell someone

starling2011 · #1 August 1st, 2011, 04:14 PM

hi i am new here. Tommie 35 married to Chris 40. we are TTC for 2 months....DD 12 DS11 DS 5. we are trying for our my 4th his 2...bit not telling anyone. His sister in law is expecting their 1st after a loss in Dec. we dont want to take away from her experence....besides we fear that though we are financially independent and able to provide for all of our children some may be judgemental. my best friend knows and is very supportive but lives in another state. i am hoping to find some support and make new friends here......thanx for reading babydust to all.....

latestartTTC · #2 August 1st, 2011, 09:27 PM

Hi, welcome!

I'm new too. DH, 35, and myself 36, are TTC our first! So are you positive or still TTC? Sounds like positive

. if so, CONGRATULATIONS!

Sorry, I didn't quite understand. I've only been on here a couple of days but everyone is really super supportive and nice.

Let me know

and good luck. I can relate to your problem to a degree. I'm reallly going to struggle to keep it a secret if we do get a BFP. I don't want to think about a MC but I know it's a possibility and esp. with it being our first, not sure what to expect. It's really considerate of you to think of your SIL and her loss. It shouldn't mean that you shouldn't experience your joy though.

BeckyM · #3 August 2nd, 2011, 05:10 AM

Tommie! I'm Becky (37), DH is Tony (also 37). We are WTTC at the moment, but I still stick around on this great board here. Whether to tell or not is hard, and the older we get the more un-welcome comments we seem to get from our family, friends, co-workers, and even random strangers. It can make you want to scream . . . and once you get pg, just be prepared for those comments to continue. I still get comments even now that swing both ways, that I've way to old to consider another child, or the ones telling me to have them now before I get any older.

So frustrating. . .

Here on JM and this board, we are all here to support each other, so no judging from us. We welcome you & look forward to getting to know you. Good luck!!!

GG1995 · #4 August 2nd, 2011, 05:35 AM

Hi & Welcome!!

I am Dara (will be 35 in December) and DH is 38......we have 1 DS named Trevor that will be 20 months on Saturday.

We are TTC our second bundle of joy now. You will LOVE this board!! All of the ladies are so helpful, wonderful and loving!! Please know that you are not in this alone, as we are all here to support each other through the good times and the bad!!

Again, WELCOME!!!

*SamF* · #5 August 2nd, 2011, 05:40 AM

Welcome Tommie!

I'm Sam (40) and DH is JIm (41) we are TTC #2, we have a almost 19 month old DS. There is a great bunch of ladies on here!

pepper73 · #6 August 2nd, 2011, 09:40 AM

Hi Tommie and Welcome to the board!!! It is wonderful here and for me, it's really helped to know I'm not the only oldie but goodie TTC! LOL!

My name is Sarah and my BF & I are both 37 and TTC our first together He has a daughter who is 10 and we are trying to give her a little brother or sister. We got pregnant once but it ended in a loss

in February.

I totally understand the whole "do we tell" debate. It's a tough decision to make and you never know how people will react. I have a few good friends who know we are TTC but I haven't told anyone else. I don't want to tell my family yet because I know they will worry. The only family member who knows is my sister. It really is so thoughtful of you to think of your SIL. I'm sure when the time is right to tell her, she will appreciate your kindness. It's also good that you have someone IRL who is there for you. We will all be here for you too, to stand by you and support you. I wish you the best of luck TTC!!

melissalaw · #7 August 3rd, 2011, 12:59 PM

Welcome Tommie!! I'm Melissa (37) and DH Stephen (41). We have DS who just turned 2 and we are TTC #2. Just started trying again after a loss in June. Hoping that you get your BFP quickly. The women on this Just Mommy have been a life saver for me. Glad you are joining.

Jen71 · #8 August 3rd, 2011, 03:50 PM

Hi! I'm Jen (age 40, DH is 42) and we have 2 boys age 3 and 6. We aren't telling anyone we are TTC, except my doctor who is fully supportive, because we are afraid of what people will say. When I was pg in Jan-April (m/c) it was a surprise, and when we told people about the m/c I got some comments like, "well, you ARE almost 40", etc etc. Ugh... I don't need to hear it. We just have a big space in our hearts ready and waiting for someone to add to our family, we don't want to justify it any more than that, nor do we need to.

Anyhow, best wishes to you and I hope you get your BFP soon!