Interesting Article

pepper73 · #1 November 15th, 2011, 02:43 PM

I saw this posted by the Today Show. I wonder what their study results would've been if they'd interviewed the women here:
Fertility Math

BeckyM · #2 November 15th, 2011, 05:13 PM

I think we would have made the results swing the other say.

But I also will admit, until I came to JM, I NEVER knew as much as I do now and certainly never thought DH & I would deal with infertility from both of us. never even crossed our minds.

Mom 2 Avery · #3 November 15th, 2011, 09:13 PM

My precious one was conceived at the ripe age of 43...so puff on them!!!!

pepper73 · #4 November 16th, 2011, 04:28 AM

I made the mistake of reading some of the comments at the end of the article and some of them were pretty nasty. I had to stop reading them.

Becky, I agree about JM. I have learned a TON! Dawna, you crack me up! I love your spunk!

kayakr · #5 November 16th, 2011, 10:34 AM

I saw this article yesterday. I also started to read the comments and then stopped myself cause I was getting upset.
However, I do feel a lot like this lady that wrote the book. I also feel a little mis-led my by OBGYN. He continually told me at every yearly exam that I a had plenty of time. Now I go the an RE and he tells me he has only had one lady at 42 use her own eggs and be successful with IVF. WHAT?
The RE says my quality of egg is huge. Why didn't my obgyn tell me that every year instead of "you still have plenty of time".

Anyways - I will say I have learned more from you ladies on JM than my own doctors. Thank you.

Jenknee · #6 November 17th, 2011, 01:13 AM

I started to skim the comments when I read ...30 is old and broken. Well, I just went ahead and shut that browser. Read no further.
I am new to JM and have learned a lot! Its nice to hear other women having the same questions that I do. I second you Kayakr! I feel so normal!
My friends that are my age have children(without problems), and I feel I can't go to them with my thoughts or concerns. Isn't that silly!

pepper73 · #7 November 17th, 2011, 04:42 AM

Gretchen, I'd be angry too. I would think an OB would be a bit better informed! I also wanted to point out...for a bit of inspiration...that our very own Missy was told that she'd never be able to conceive without donor eggs, but she did conceive on her own, and she's going in to have her baby today. So, it is very possible to beat the odds, and it is not too late!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jenknee

I started to skim the comments when I read ...30 is old and broken. Well, I just went ahead and shut that browser. Read no further.
I am new to JM and have learned a lot! Its nice to hear other women having the same questions that I do. I second you Kayakr! I feel so normal!
My friends that are my age have children(without problems), and I feel I can't go to them with my thoughts or concerns. Isn't that silly!

The term "broken" makes me so mad! My BF used to say I was broken whenever I had AF and we couldn't DTD. I finally told him how much it hurts me and that it's NOT funny. He luckily has respected that and doesn't say it anymore.
It isn't silly that you don't feel you can turn to your friends. I have friends like that too, and there's no way they'll understand the way everyone on here does.

BeckyM · #8 November 17th, 2011, 05:36 AM

Big hugs to all of us!! ((((hugs)))) I hate the broken term, and also the AMA (Advanced Maternal Age). TTC is very frustrating, and even more so when you reach our "older" age. With me, I didn't even meet my DH until I was in my 30s, and I certainly never expected us to have problems getting pg let alone dealing with fertility issues on both sides of us. I also (looking back) am VERY annoyed that it was just assumed I & my body was the problem, and my DH wasn't even tested at all until we'd been TTC over a year and started working with an RE. My OB just assumed it was only me, and didn't even order a S/A which is one of the least expensive and easiest test (aside from some embarrassment for the guys). Very frustrating . . .