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October 8th, 2012, 10:21 PM
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Last night we were talking as to why we can't conceive .dh has said its cause we try to hard ! We should stop trying also no test sticks of any kind .and he what's it to happen when it happens .I could have shook him at the time .how can u try to hard and at 39 how many eggs does he think iv left .sometimes men don't see the whole picture .I was a little peeved at him ..but iv agreed to give it a go for a few mths tho .grrrr Men !!!
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October 8th, 2012, 11:11 PM
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We don't try that hard and we are not preggers. The only time DH knows where I am in my cycle is when AF is here. He has no idea how my cycles work or when I am possibly fertile (unless he is spying on me here, LOL). I figure it alleviates the stress from his side.

Men and some women, or maybe just ppl in general that are not feeling the pressures and time constraints of TTC don't really seem to understand what we go through. But maybe he is feeling a little bit stressed too which is why he is asking for a bit of a breather?
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October 9th, 2012, 06:46 AM
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I agree hun .his feeling stressed I guess cause I get stressed . So maybe no presure will wk in the next few mths who knows .
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October 9th, 2012, 07:33 AM
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I have tried every approach possible with DH. The real problem is that since I was 39 yrs old the panic has kicked in that I am running out of time. With each cycle it gets closer and closer to then end and he just doesn’t understand that or likes to avoid it. However, for me it is real and the week of O the panic is worse and he just better be ready. Lol I am going down kicking and screaming and it I wont miss a cycle trying!
I really don’t think they feel the desperation and panic we feel naturally. It’s our bodies and theirs doesn’t give them the same messages that our bodies give us.
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Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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October 9th, 2012, 10:03 AM
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Wow you have worded it sio well .and you are right I'm in a panic cause
At my age I'm like my clock is ticking .dh just don't get it !
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October 9th, 2012, 11:18 AM
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My DH gets panicky when it is something he wants. Not that he doesnt want a baby as well, but thats more my side of it than his? Hes more of if it happens it happens if it doesnt it doesnt. KWIM?
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October 9th, 2012, 10:43 PM
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Kind of the same with my DH. He wants a baby, but he doesn't seem to be too bothered if it doesn't happen. So I have sort of adopted an attitude that it is fine if I don't get pg, if we do great, if not oh well. Otherwise i would be stressed out every 2WW.
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October 10th, 2012, 11:44 PM
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mine feels the same he always says thats why its called the mircle of life.. it happens when you least exspect it...I dont even tell him when Im getting close I just jump him.. lol.. he has this I can do without anymore kids. things.but will go with the flow..the take it leave thing. um Im 39 now and I cant take it anymore lol
we gave ourselves until I turn 40 not a day past and were done. he is 44 now so I understand,.. men..never let them know when its time just have lots of sex and go out with a bang..
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October 11th, 2012, 09:22 AM
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LOL I made a deal with mine at one point in TTC. It went something like neither of us could tell the other no, so on fertile days if I asked he couldnt beg off and on non fertile days I couldnt beg off. If we did it gave the other a get out of jail free card for the next cycle.
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October 11th, 2012, 02:40 PM
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lol that really is funny how we barder like that...the worse part is they seem to want it when your done and you to take all you got to get in the mood. lol.. ya just go with it ,,,,
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