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  #1  
January 8th, 2013, 10:52 PM
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well om on day 2 of my second mth temping .not had a great few days ,iv been on right downer tbh , how do we girls keep going after mth after mth of bfn ? sometimes it seems like im wasting my time like its never gonna happen ,then other times im like i know it will happen it is just a matter of time .im so up and down at the minute ,and i cant seem to stop it

do i try to hard ? who knows
do i get stressed mmm yes lol

it just seems so unfair that its not happening . when im doing everything right to get pregnant .
sometimes i think i should just give up ,but i know i cant do that either ,its like no matter what i do its not right at the min , not been this neg or down for a while and im finding it hard to snap out of , i know i will in the end and be happy positive me ,i just dont know when , i hope its soon tho ,i hate being a misrable moo .
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January 9th, 2013, 12:26 AM
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sometimes its good to just vent hun trust me I have my moments and Im tired of trying yet I keep going.. have faith hun,..
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January 9th, 2013, 10:42 AM
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Thanks hun .its just hard at this time of mth . A bfn with pmt is not good lol . But I'm more hopeful tonight .and looking forward and upward to next round of ttc
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January 9th, 2013, 02:17 PM
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I don't know how we keep on going. I'll tell you this, 6 years ago I was told I wouldn't be alive right now, so I look back at that and say "I've beaten the odds, I'm taking every opportunity to make the life I want, because I can."

There were months that we said we're done. Like 1 month before we conceived in the fall. And other months DH and I planned our time around my cycle. But I think for many it becomes routine after a year or two or five.

I found that every cycle was easier to get through if I:
1. Stopped watching / reading baby stories.
2. Used OPKs and Temp'd but NEVER used hpts, even on the day AF was due.
I broke both rules two cycles ago and I was so stressed out I gave myself a massive headache.

You'll get your BFP. Statistically, it's guaranteed. Think of that. Statistically, we all get a BFP eventually. And every month that you don't get it you're that much closer to it happening.
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January 9th, 2013, 05:06 PM
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I'm sorry you're having a bad time. I totally understand. It really sucks to keep trying and not get the result you want.

I agree with Lelila in that I've found not testing takes some of the stress off, so try not to if you can (I know it can be tough). I also avoid all baby related blogs, forums when I'm feeling especially stressed.
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January 9th, 2013, 10:44 PM
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thankyou girls , some timess its good to just vent and let it all out , im feeling a lot better today ,and you have both said what dh has said , do not do any pregnacy tests till im late , it is that that stresses me out . so this mth i wont do them till im late ,see if that helps , i know i will get my bfp your right ,each mth im closer to it ,
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January 10th, 2013, 12:35 AM
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my husband told me the same thing he say wait until your late and then give it an extra week after that.. now that is to hard lol
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January 10th, 2013, 05:24 AM
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I can't keep on as I have been . Or I will end up a mess. So I'm gonna try and real hard to not test at 10dpo .and just wait it out .it will kill me but got to be less stressful . We all under too much stress as it is .we don't need any more . Here is to our bfp in the next few mths
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January 10th, 2013, 05:31 AM
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Hope you are feeling not down anymore. New cycle, new game.

But yes, I have been there many cycles where I thought I was pregos and then wasn't. Tested and was sure those sticks were wrong. But they always seem right. Grrrr. I also don't test anymore. I just wait it out till AF shows. I want to test but I think about the cost and then don't. That said I do have a stash of pregnancy tests in the bathroom for when it's testing time.


Wishing you a very fertile cycle with a BFP outcome.
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January 10th, 2013, 08:51 AM
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I am feeling a lot better and more positive.just going to try and chill this mth .have my vits and lots of baby dancing and hope for the best .
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January 10th, 2013, 11:19 AM
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Glad you are feeling better Vicky. Sometimes its a day by day thing.

BTW- I don't test either. HPT are the devil. I am sad when AF comes and I know it's a BFN but at 42 I am also glad AF keeps showing up so I can keep trying for a BFP. Those BFN HPT's are enough to put me in a mental ward. Stay away from them those devil little things.
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Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
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January 10th, 2013, 10:35 PM
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Glad you are feeling better Vicky. Sometimes its a day by day thing.

BTW- I don't test either. HPT are the devil. I am sad when AF comes and I know it's a BFN but at 42 I am also glad AF keeps showing up so I can keep trying for a BFP. Those BFN HPT's are enough to put me in a mental ward. Stay away from them those devil little things.
i think your right a day at a time hun , and you are all right with the maddness of hpt and those early ones are really the devil lol ,im going to be strong this mth not test and wait !!!!

hope your ok i know your going through your own stuff too . but we are all strong ladies ,stay positive your time is coming ,2013 is gonna be a good year for us all ,
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January 11th, 2013, 09:21 AM
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how you feeling today vickie..? Im still hanging in there I have no systems what so ever and I just have a gut feeling this is not gonna be my month yet again..its so hard to stay positive.
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January 12th, 2013, 12:51 AM
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how you feeling today vickie..? Im still hanging in there I have no systems what so ever and I just have a gut feeling this is not gonna be my month yet again..its so hard to stay positive.
hi hun im doing ok ,i know its hard to stay positive ,but you never know whats gonna happen till the witch shows ,my last pregnacy i didnt feel pregnant at all at the beginning ,so you can be prego with out feeling that you are. as all ready been said said ,it will happen its just a matter of when !!! .this mth could well be your mth have hope and faith hun , :
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January 12th, 2013, 02:02 AM
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i know my mind is boggled at the moment.. it drives me mad..thanks hun,, I will get there
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January 12th, 2013, 03:05 AM
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You will get there.you are strong .I hate the 2 week wait its such a emotional time .highs and lows. Our minds and bodies playing tricks on us.nothing makes it any better .we still end up upset even when we know its coming. Our want and need for a baby to bring home so strong .

But keep your faith .your time is coming I can feel it in my bones as my nan would say .stay strong .x
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January 12th, 2013, 01:20 PM
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thanks hun Im staying strong my temp keeps rising even higher but I feel like my uterus want to gush lol im gonna test tomorrow.. I ff changed my date my 1 day so its either 8 or 9 dpo. today,,,
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January 13th, 2013, 12:37 AM
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im glad your temps are up hun , lets hope they stay that way . testing !! what was it the result hun ? im waiting here girl lol , good luck
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January 13th, 2013, 02:04 AM
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lol ya bfn but its only 8 dpo.. 9 now since its 1 am lol... but I have period cramps for a couple of hours now.. I never get period cramps... hope its a good sign or Im gonna have one hell of a period and its gonna be early
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January 13th, 2013, 02:27 AM
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Yeah hun still early wait till 13dpo . Iv got it all x for you . And hoping the cramps are a good sign . X
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