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Yesterday was our 12 wk U/S. Two different techs found No HB. The baby had stopped growing a week ago. D&C scheduled for early this week.
The hardest thing in the world for a woman is to lose their baby. The hardest thing in the world for a mother is to tell her child that the baby is not coming. My heart is absolutely broken for my son, who spoke to the baby everyday.
It's going to be a hard couple of weeks. I'm thankful for my DH who has been so supportive and my son who is the most loving child. And for you ladies, for all your support here and on the other boards.
I'm not being antisocial, but I hope none of you are here when I return to TTCing because you all got your BFPs.
Be Well my friends!
__________________ Leia
Mommy to the most wonderful boy, 7 yrs old. 9/12 at 5wks 3/13 at 11 wks
oh sweetie I have no words but that I will pray for you and your family its not easy loosing a baby I have had a d&c but that was 18 years ago and its still hurts.. I hope and pray for a speedy recovery and take time for yourself to heal god bless you hun.
There is nothing I can say that will make this hurt any less. Just know I am thinking about you. Your baby is in the presence of Jesus. And one day you will meet him/her. ((((Hugs)))
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something that I could say that would help but I know there isn't. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!!
perhaps sorry are not the words you wanna hear but I am and I feel for you had a loss in oct at 15 weeks...so can relate as im sure others can as well hope that you recover soon mentally as well as physically god bless you and your family
Thank you ladies, for all your support. I went through the D&C yesterday. I cried until the anesthesia kicked in. When I woke up, I felt numb, empty and incomplete. This morning, I don't feel anything, just a overwhelming sense of loss and anger.
After last Friday, I had been walking around with so many questions and doubt. I scheduled another U/S for Tuesday, because I wanted to make sure and to say goodbye. The U/S showed the same thing we saw on Friday. I cried the whole day, but I knew in my heart and mind that the D&C was necessary and would keep me healthy.
I spoke to my OB yesterday a few times. She was SO incredibly sweet, sympathetic and explaining everything and telling me to wait at least 1 maybe 2 cycles before we start again. And she wants us to go through chromosomal testing first, just so we have more information before we start.
We decided NOT to test the tissue that was removed yesterday. It wouldn't make a difference what was found. We aren't going to stop trying, at least not yet.
I hope you all find yourselves in the happiest and healthiest of places.
__________________ Leia
Mommy to the most wonderful boy, 7 yrs old. 9/12 at 5wks 3/13 at 11 wks
Hun I feel for you . Going through that is just heartbreaking . There are no words that will make it better for you right now . But I'm sending you hugs and hoping you recover both in mind and body very soon . Xx
Oh friend, I am so very sorry. I really don't know what to say except to say I'm sending a bigtime virtual hug to you and your family.
I know a woman who suffered a first trimester miscarriage, and she was so devestated, she turned her pain into a book to help others. Not having been through this, I can't and won't try and say I know what it's like to be in your (and her) shoes, but the book was written beautifully and is given out in bereavement packages in the author's local area...may I share the link to the page for it?
It's called All That Is Seen and Unseen by Elizabeth Petrucelli; I read it cover to cover, and while a book won't take away your heartache, it was written very well and aimed towards moms who lost their babies early on.
Much love to you and yours...
__________________ Sometimes the 'secret' of life is just appreciating what everone else overlooks....
Thank you for sharing. I have read so many stories now, and sometimes they make me feel better and sometimes they makes me feel more sad and desperate - there are so many women who have gone through this, it seems that more women miscarry than have successful pregnancies.
I've read a few articles and short books about this. I'm feeling a little lost in all of it, I don't quite fit into the 'early pregnancy' category where so many women saw the beginnings of a pregnancy but didn't get to see it advance to a heartbeat or beyond. And I don't fit into the category where so many women could already feel the baby.
I'm somewhere in the middle. We saw the baby's heartbeat. Saw the baby moving and wiggling. Saw a head, the spine, the buds of arms and legs. Then a few weeks later, the baby LOOKED like a baby - fully formed, arms and legs. But it was not moving. There was no heartbeat. DH said "He's sleeping". I will never lose that image in my mind, seeing the baby lying so still.
Thanks for letting me talk about it.
__________________ Leia
Mommy to the most wonderful boy, 7 yrs old. 9/12 at 5wks 3/13 at 11 wks
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It is such a painful experience and I am so sad yor going through it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sometimes the 'secret' of life is just appreciating what everone else overlooks....
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