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so, i was 3 months along and everything was going fine. then i started hurting and spotting so I went to see my ob. he assured me that was normal but he'd take a listen. there was no heartbeat. u/s confirmed that my baby had stopped developing. he suggested a d&c which i ws unusure about. i felt like, what if my baby is really fine and i let them do this? they assured me several times that this pregnancy could not be saved. so i agreed to the d&c. went in Thursday 3/5/09 8:00 am, had the "procedure" and then when i woke up i asked to hold my baby. i KNEW i couldn't, but i guess it was just the drugs talking. I was very emotional. I calmed down, rested a while, and then was released to go home with pain meds and some pills to stop me from hemmoraging. For the next few days I was in terrible pain, worse than period cramps, and bleeding more than I expected. So I went in on Wednesday 3/11/09 to see my OB.
i ended up spending the night in the hospital, they did lab work to check several things and see if i needed a blood transfusion b/c they were concerned i was losing too much blood. another pelvic exam and another u/s, showed i still had tissue or "product retained" as they called it. my cervix had closed and there was still tissue and a huge blod clot that were trapped in there, causing infection which explain the pain i had. i never thought of that b/c i didn't have fever and thta is what they say is a sign of infection. so they prepped me for surgery again first thing in the morning. Thursday, exactly one week after my first d&c, i had a second d&c. i already knew what to expect since i'd just gone through this, so it was definitely not as hard as the first time. Though when i woke up i was still just as emotional, asking about the baby and if it was a girl...of course they couldn't tell me that, but again, i suppose it was the drugs talking.
since i had spent the night in the hospital, they brought me back to my room for a few hours so i could rest and have lunch. then i was released with more pain pills and something different for the bleeding. i feel MUCH different this time, not hurting nearly as much but still bleeding heavily, through my clothes and onto blankets. i believe they tell most women they will bleed the same amount as a period. obviously for me that is not true. i am now on bedrest for 3 days, can't drive/have sex/pick up anything over 10 lbs including my toddler, for 2 whole weeks....
when you have a d&c, if there is ANY pain or bleeding more than a period, it's prob not normal (like i thought) please go in and see your OB asap, it could mean something is terribly wrong! My OB says it only happens 1% of the time, that usually if there is anything left it passes naturally in the next few days, but 1% of the time, your cervix closes back up and then the problems begin.