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November 13th, 2009, 12:55 PM
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I was hoping that I wouldn't have to post in here, but in my heart, for the past few weeks I knew something wasn't right. We just found out today (at 11 weeks per my first u/s) that my baby didn't have a heartbeat. I had a STAT internal u/s on November 3rd and my OB just got the results of it yesterday. Apparently my baby died in October. I didn't get the exact measurments as I couldn't think at all this morning at the office.

I'm going to be scheduled for a D & C next week. Part of me is hoping for it to happen naturally this weekend (but I really don't want to see the baby like this), but knowing that I haven been spotting (which has almost stopped) for 4 weeks and it hasn't happened yet it probably won't happen on its own.

Right now I am just so sad, but I have a beautiful 20 month old to take care of, so I try not to show it. I've done nothing but cry for the past 24 hours (since the doctor called me late last night, at that point I knew something was surely wrong). I try to sleep but can't.

Thanks for listening to me.
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November 13th, 2009, 03:33 PM
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oh Karen. i am so truely sorry to hear this. i kept checking in on the ddc to see if you had updated. i was hoping and praying that everything was ok with you and your bean. i understand you wanting to go natural, thats what i did, mine started right after they told me that my baby had died, well at least spotting did. i think that it has helped with the grieving process. the actual m/c wasnt until 5 days later. you have a right to feel sad and cry. i try to hide my sadness sometimes too because of my other children but when i am alone sometimes i just bust loose with it and have a good cry.
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November 13th, 2009, 05:17 PM
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November 14th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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Thanks ladies. The pain started last night. I'm getting these sharp pains that come and go that I can feel all the way up into my shoulder blade. Just like a lightning bolt. Still spotting brown. I'm wondering if it is okay to take a Percocet/Endocet as the Tylenol has done absolutely nothing for me.
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November 14th, 2009, 03:08 PM
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with my first m/c, i wasnt as far along as with this one. i ended up at the er because the pain was so bad and they gave me percocet that didnt even touch the pain. they ended up giving me 3 units of morphine. i am no dr but i say that if you know that you are able to take it and the pain is that bad you should then.
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November 16th, 2009, 02:50 PM
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Well it is going to be Wednesday. I still don't believe it. I've also asked for another u/s before the procedure because I have to see the baby myself. I think that will help me with the acceptance of it all. When I was talking to the nurse today she said that happens quite frequently, that the moms want to see the baby just one last time.
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November 16th, 2009, 02:59 PM
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November 17th, 2009, 03:59 PM
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I hope all goes well for you tomorrow. i am so sorry you have to go through this. you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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November 18th, 2009, 07:29 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss...
I know what you mean about wanting to see the baby just to make sure. I asked for that too, I was just sure they had to be wrong...Make sure that if you want a u/s pic you ask for it then...i wasn't in the frame of mind to and now i regret it...
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