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The pregnancy was a surprise, I thought I felt off and decided to test... although a surprise my fiance and I had just put an offer in on our new house and we couldn't have been more excited!
During the coming weeks I felt a little queasy and tired, but overall, I felt pretty good. At 7 weeks pregnancy I was packing up my house, getting ready for the movers to come with the moving truck. I went into the bathroom and when I wiped I noticed a slight tinge of pink, barely noticable on the toliet paper. My heart dropped and I rushed out of the bathroom and straight to the ER. The doctor checked my cervix and did a urine test. He said that everything felt fine, but to be safe he wanted to send me to get an ultrasound. The u/s tech turned the screen and there was baby with a nice strong heart beat!
I was sent home and told to rest (not easy in the middle of moving). Dh and I were set to fly out on October 30th to head for Vegas where we were to get married! The next couple weeks I took it easy, with no more bleeding and things seemed to be going well. At 9 weeks I had my first appointment with my OBGYN. I was given an ultrasound first thing and there was baby beautiful as ever! Heart beat was 177 and everything was RIGHT on track. I met with my doctor and she told me that everything looked wonderful and not to worry that my chances of miscarriage were slim to none since I had now seen the heartbeat!
The next two weeks went by fairly quickly with all the wedding planning and still settling into our new house. The day before we were to fly out to Vegas I woke up and went to the restroom where when I wiped, I again noticed that very light pink tinged color on the toliet paper. It was early in the morning and I tried not to get worried as I got ready and headed out for work, calling the doctor on the way to the office. I explained briefly to my fiance what was going on but told him not to worry. The doctor on call said that she was sure everything was fine, that bleeding sometimes happens but just in case I can come in for an ultrasound and meet with my doctor since we were going out of town. I was just a little over 11 weeks pregnant.
I got to work and began to get excited and let worry slip from my mind since I was no longer seeing the pink discharge and I was going to get another ultrasound! I arrived to the doctors office and immediatly was taken back for an ultrasound, the tech first did an external and said that she was going to do an internal, then she would let me see the baby.
I got undressed and she started the internal as she pulled the screen away from me. What seemed like just seconds later, she pulled the wand away from me and looked at me and said "I am not really supposed to tell you this, but I don't want you wondering what's going on... but there is no heartbeat"
I was in complete shock. I had no tears but simply my heart began to race and I felt like slipping away into a dark corner. The nurse left the room so I could get dressed and when she returned she escorted me to a room in the office so I wouldn't be in the waiting room. She told me she was sorry and that the doctor would be in to see my shortly. In that room I lost it, my world crashed down around me and I called my mom and then my fiance, I could hear the stress in his voice. No one could believe what was happening. While I was on the phone with my mom, the doctor entered the room and wrapped her arms around me. She tried to explain to me why these things happen sometimes but I remember only looking down at the sheet of paper she had sitting on the counter... the words heart rate and directly below that, highlighted in yellow said "absent".
Together we discussed options and she said since I was leaving to go to Vegas (which she enouraged me to still go) and my cervix was still thick and closed that I should go and when I returned we would discuss my options.
That night took everything in me to pack my bags. We finally arrived in Vegas... that night... the bleeding started. It was light, more like a medium period with a few clots here and there. I had some cramping but nothing too extreme.
That day passed with little event... the next day things went well.. it was halloween day and I managed to get through.. I drank alot to help ease the pain and get my mind away from things.
Saturday came and the bleeding got a little heavier but that was the morning of my wedding. I got ready as the cramping increased but we were determined to continue forward. On the way to the chapel in the limo, the cramping turned to more like contractions... there were about 15 to 20 minutes apart and lasted only a few seconds before tappering off. The wedding went well and I made it through, managing to put myself outside of what was happening to my body and my baby. It was almost bittersweet that my little angel was still with us when we were married.
When we left the chapel in the limo on the way back, the contractions got worse... to the point I could not talk through them. We got to the hotel and I changed clothes and tried to relax a little and we decided to go to lunch. I managed to get some some food and decided that walking around would do me some good. SO we ventured outside of the hotel, but we didn't even get a block away before I felt a heavy contraction and a GUSH that followed. The pain was UNBEARABLE. I immediatly fell to my knees and felt as though my insides were being ripped from my body. Brad slowly escorted me back to the hotel room where for the next 3 hours I would bleed so badly and be in so much pain I could not leave the bathroom... I would rotate from the shower to the toliet. My poor husband sat on the bed crying b/c he felt so helpless.
After 3 hours of this, my MIL and SIL (who were there with us) came to the room after speaking with DH and realizing how much pain I was in. They talked me into going to the emergency room. I told them I was too scared to go, that I was bleeding to much to leave and it hurt to walk. They called the desk to request a wheel chair but after waiting for 20 minutes, no one came so I finally said lets just walk, I will get through it. The walk was horrid.. DH went to get the car at meet us at the closest door. The hospital was 4 miles away. The ride was very painful but we finally arrived at the hospital, by this point I had blood running down my legs... We walked into the ER and a guy in the ER saw me struggling to come in and rushed out a wheel chair.. my MIL and SIL sat with me in the waiting room while DH checked me in. I was in the waiting room for about 10 minutes before they came and got me. From there I remember the pain and it was horrible. The ER doctor came in and they immediatly started me on pain medication. After a couple hours and blood tests later the doctor came in and did a mini D&C and sent me for a confirmation Ultrasound to check to make sure everything was gone. I was then sent home after 5 hours in the ER. The pain stopped almost immediatly after the D&C and the bleeding slowed to a medium to heavy period.
My bleeding lasted for about 2 weeks. My HCG levels returned to normal at that point.