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January 7th, 2009, 05:38 AM
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Here is the thing. I am turning 41 (41!!!!) in a few weeks' time, and I have a history of five losses (unknown causes) and one successful pregnancy (which happened nearly two years ago). So, what are my chances of getting pregnant and staying pregnant at this age?? Less than 10%? Less than 5%? Whatever the number, can't be high.

And yet, here I am, buying OPKs, dusting off my thermometer, trying to remember how to chart. I know the odds are definitively not in my favour. I know this is a rather crazy exercise which is probably going to cause me a lot of heartache. I know I may well end up trying IVF in a desperate attempt at another baby. I know we may end without a baby anyway.

Despite all of that, I want to try. I want to do as much as I can so that if we do end up having to give up, at least I will be able to tell myself "we did all we could". I know I don't sound too positive but frankly, given the circumstances, being too positive would be rather crazy.

This business of TTC after a history of recurrent losses is not for the fainthearted. So, there is this part of me that is wondering whether I have got what it takes. To be honest, I don't know. But I do know that ready or not, here I come.

Paula
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January 7th, 2009, 06:45 AM
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I would definitely go through testing first to determine if there is anything that could keep you from having a healthy pregnancy. It could be something like a clotting factor, or even just poor lining, but having the information will up your chances at having a healthy successful pregnancy.

You'd have to have all the tests to do IVF, so starting with them for natural conception (try for a few cycles naturally if you don't think there's a problem) and if it doesn't work have some testing done. Some of it is as simple as a blood test!

Good luck, and KUP!
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January 7th, 2009, 08:22 AM
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I agree with Ashley here. Given your history and age, I'd make a visit to the doctor early on. It may save you more heartache. If there is something wrong (clotting factor, poor lining) it's best to find out now then after another loss, right?
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welcome! If having another baby is in your heart then trying really is the only possible action, scary as it is.
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January 7th, 2009, 04:47 PM
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I would definitely go through testing first to determine if there is anything that could keep you from having a healthy pregnancy.[/b]
Oh, we did all the testing there was to be done a few years ago (and everything was negative). When I was pregnant with Daniel I was on progesterone and a blood thinning drug (can't remember the name now...it was Clexane, I think). I have seen my RE and he suggested to try "naturally" for a few months to see what happens. If I do get pg, I would be on the same meds. The big question mark if whether I am going to be able to get pg in the first place and how long is going to take. My cycles are, as far as I can tell, looking normal. But the age factor makes it all very uncertain. (Not to mention that age also increases your chances of mc, regardless of whether or not you have had a history of losses in the past.)

So, my RE was like "yes, do try, but also be aware of the risks". Which is an important reality check but a very hard one to take.

When I was trying to get pg for the first time, I was used to the routine of TTC every month, then waiting for another mc to happen etc. It was very hard, but I was well acquainted with the process and its challenges. Now I feel I have to start all over again and it is hard. So, I feel like a soldier preparing myself to go to war! It is awful to put it that way - I am trying to create another life, after all - but I do feel that this is going to take a lot of bravery and determination.

Be that as it may, we did a "warm up" try this month. Which means that, technically, I am in the 2ww so there is no turning back now.

Take care

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Good luck and KUP! I wanna see a BFP outta you!
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