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April 2nd, 2009, 03:38 PM
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Hello ladies. I've just had another D&C for my 4th loss and our RE said we could try again once AF returned. Most of me is willing and ready to try again once AF shows, but there's a small part of me that feels this is never gonna happen for us and there's no point in continuing on. How do you press on after recurrent loss? How can I stop feeling hopeless and angry?

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April 3rd, 2009, 05:07 AM
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I am so sorry for your losses. Have they done any testing to find out a reason?
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April 3rd, 2009, 07:05 AM
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(((HUGS))) I am very sorry for you losses

To answer your question...how do you press on....IDK you just do. For me it was the feeling that I needed a child! And every loss just incressed that feeling. Like I had to sucessed! I know that is probably not healthy...but that is what I felt. And when I was finally able to hold my 1st born I knew that pressing on was the best thing we had ever done.

DH and I have lost 3 angels & my right tube. We are blessed with 2 living children (both came after losses) and we plan on TTC angain this summer. We know we will probably be in for more heartache but IMO children make life to precious to give up on.

Good luck to you hun! And if you don't feel ready your 1st month...WAIT. You will have a chance the next month and the month after than and after that. In your heart you will know when it is the right time to try again.
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April 3rd, 2009, 09:02 AM
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I feel the same way. I have to succeed at this, and we are SO ready to start our family. I'm just so tired of being let down. I was diagnosed with being insulin resistant in January so I started taking metformin for it. Every other RPL test was normal. Maybe I just needed to be on the meds longer... idk...

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April 3rd, 2009, 09:57 AM
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They are going to be testing my SIL for that this month. She had 1 pg and lost the baby at 10w due to a subchorionic bleed and had not been able to get pg since...it has been 2 years.

How far along were you with your angels?
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April 3rd, 2009, 10:02 AM
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a MM/C at 13 weeks with only a yolk sac
We had D&C and got pregnant again on that cycle without an AF in between (COMPLETE ACCIDENT) and I naturally m/c at 6 weeks. We took three months off and three months later we had a chemical. That was Nov' 08. I started Metformin in january and found out we were pregnant again that same cycle. Everything was going well and we saw the heartbeat at 7.5 weeks. Went back a day shy of 9 weeks and the heartbeat was no longer there.
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April 3rd, 2009, 10:03 AM
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double post...oops.

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April 3rd, 2009, 08:32 PM
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I think the same thing sometimes. For me it's an obsession, and every loss makes it worse! I am one of those people that can't leave the basketball court until she makes a basket, even if it takes all night. So I think it's the same with my RPL. I just know it has to work eventually! So I keep trying until I get it right!
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April 4th, 2009, 10:54 AM
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stargatemommy, that's exactly how I feel. I'm more determined then ever until we get this right and I'm blessed with a happy & happy child. I'm just not prepared to throw in the towel although I feel down at the moment.
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April 4th, 2009, 11:05 AM
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I know the feeling, I get that feeling every other day! TTCAL is definitely a crazy journey. I never thought I would be this obsessed with having a baby!
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