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March 8th, 2011, 09:33 AM
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I'm still not 100% about this & I hope none of you ladies will think less of me for this... I have this almost desperate desire to have another baby, but am not getting any younger and many men my age either don't want to have or don't want anymore children & I'm not sure I'm willing to increase the risks as I get older for all of the things I have to do to maintain a pregnancy - so I talked to my daughter's father (whom I haven't been with in 6 years) & asked if he would just get me preggo... We actually haven't started trying yet, but I will this weekend. WDYT?
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March 8th, 2011, 12:34 PM
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I think if you trust him to be a part of the child's life, or feel you can do it 100% on your own, then it's entirely up to how your heart will handle it. I'm not exactly sure of your situation, so I have a few questions. Were you always in a committed relationship with your other children when you got pregnant? Have you ever had to do the single mom thing by yourself? If not, it wouldn't be something I'D want to try if I didn't have to, ya know? But maybe you've already done it and know that you can, and in that case I say, if it feels right then only you know what's best for you!
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March 8th, 2011, 12:53 PM
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Good luck.

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March 8th, 2011, 01:06 PM
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I think if you trust him to be a part of the child's life, or feel you can do it 100% on your own, then it's entirely up to how your heart will handle it. I'm not exactly sure of your situation, so I have a few questions. Were you always in a committed relationship with your other children when you got pregnant? Have you ever had to do the single mom thing by yourself? If not, it wouldn't be something I'D want to try if I didn't have to, ya know? But maybe you've already done it and know that you can, and in that case I say, if it feels right then only you know what's best for you!
I was actually in a committed relationship with my son's father, but he left me when I got preggo & was never really in a committed relationship with my DD's father before I had her... I have basically been a single mom since I was pregnant with my son, who is going to be 16 in 6 mths...
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March 9th, 2011, 06:28 AM
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If he's willing & that's what you want then go for it. People do it all the time anymore. It's more common than you think.

I would think there would need to be legal documents drawn up before hand: will he be responsible for child support? Can you decide years later that you want child support? Is he acting solely as a donor & to have no connection with the child after birth?

I just fear a legal battle down the road, what if he decides he wants custody & you just want him to be a donor? It would end up being so costly if you don't have things drawn up ahead of time.

Good Luck!
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March 9th, 2011, 07:14 AM
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Jody brings up some good concerns. However, I think you probably though long and hard about this and seeing as how you already have a child with him you're probably pretty comfortable with things if you're even willing to think about it. That said, go for it.
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March 9th, 2011, 12:03 PM
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Thanks ladies I just cannot talk about this with my friends & family IRL - they all think that I shouldn't try again
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