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What's been the hardest thing for you about TTC after recurrent loss?
wanting and not wanting a bfp all at the same time....wanting it but yet knowing that by getting one, i have only set myself up for a fall.
How do you deal with it?
i think i try not to deal with it
Do you have anyone IRL to lean on?
i have a small handful of people who i have talked to or at least somewhat know our situation, but i don't have anyone who i go to when i'm down, no one IRL understands.
Who's helped you the most?
i would have to say dh, he has been there through it all, he listens to me complain about all the unfairness and he hasn't asked me to give up....the only thing he has said about being done is if/when we have another late loss, we are done, but i think i have to agree with that.
What's been the hardest thing for you about TTC after recurrent loss? I'm scared that by getting a BFP I'll get really excited only to miscarry again.
How do you deal with it? Honestly, I don't know. I try not to think about it, but that's incredibly hard to do.
Do you have anyone IRL to lean on? Kinda, my best friend has had several miscarriages, but I feel guilty if I talk to her about mine since they don't come close to what she's gone through. (She lost 3 at 5 months that had to actually be delivered and has mc 2 sets of triplets, a set of quads, and several others.) Another friend of mine has been helpful but I don't get to talk to her often.
Who's helped you the most? I'd have to say groups and forums have helped me the most. My fiance doesn't seem to understand at all.
Thanks to Jaidynsmum for my siggy!
Proud former foster parent to a teen. Waiting on our next call. Proud Aunt to 22.
Proud mommy to 7 angels. Survivor of 4 failed adoptions (5 kids)