To have kids?

My DH and I have known we'd always want to be parents... I was too scared until about the last year and now DH is too worried about money to start trying now. So when did you feel ready enough to try (white knuckle it?)

[Hubby2Ali]

I'm still not ready and we're three deep...

I think we've always wanted kids. You can't just put it off for this or that or you'll never have any...

Thanks!

[Hubby2Ali]

I meant to add more but our latest addition thought otherwise.

My wife and I had talked about having this one after she gets out of school, and then after we move into our new house, then after I get started in school, then after my new job starts...etc... You can see how it goes from there. We, instead, decided to just not try to not try and see what happens.

We, instead, decided to just not try to not try and see what happens.[/b]

I see!

[cwipp]

I don't think we were ever ready, really. She stopped taking her BC and we said,"We'll see what happens". She wasn't really planned, but it's not like we didn't want her, you know?
Anyways, she is 4 months old now and we can't get enough of her or the feeling of being parents.

We are going to start trying again next month in March. That way the baby will be born after Fall Semester so we hopefully won't have to miss our final exams.

I don't think we were ever ready, really. She stopped taking her BC and we said,"We'll see what happens". She wasn't really planned, but it's not like we didn't want her, you know?
Anyways, she is 4 months old now and we can't get enough of her or the feeling of being parents.

We are going to start trying again next month in March. That way the baby will be born after Fall Semester so we hopefully won't have to miss our final exams.[/b]

That's awesome! Good luck in March man!

[Josiahsdaddy1984]

I don't think I'll ever be ready for children. But I am trying my frickin hardest at being a great dad. Josiah always keeps my guessing. To make a long story short Josiah was a oops baby, bad way to put it but when leah woke me up that morning and told me I had nothin else in my mind but happiness! Now thru that long but seemed short 9 months i read and read and read...I think the day Josiah was born I was ready to be a parent.

I don't think I'll ever be ready for children. But I am trying my frickin hardest at being a great dad. Josiah always keeps my guessing. To make a long story short Josiah was a oops baby, bad way to put it but when leah woke me up that morning and told me I had nothin else in my mind but happiness! Now thru that long but seemed short 9 months i read and read and read...I think the day Josiah was born I was ready to be a parent.[/b]

I'm sure DH will be like that too... but I know we won't have an oops unless H-E-L-L freezes over...

[maximize]

I'm still not ready and we're three deep... [/b]

I loved that!

I'm in the same boat — three deep. Difference is I was never "ready" for them to come and less ready for them to go. They're all gone now and living far away. I love them like they were babies though.

I asked my dad that question when I found out we were having our first and he said, "If you wait till you can afford it, you'll never have kids. If think you have to be ready, you won't ever be."

But I do think we could have planned a little better

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I asked my dad that question when I found out we were having our first and he said, "If you wait till you can afford it, you'll never have kids. If think you have to be ready, you won't ever be."[/b]

How do I talk to him about it without the money issue being put up as a stop sign?

[Hubby2Ali]

How do I talk to him about it without the money issue being put up as a stop sign?
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If it comes up, just ask him when you'll ever have enough money. Or, you can go with the, "how much money is it worth to you to have a baby? I can do without cable/movies/something else, I'd just like to continue to add on to our family and there's no time like the present." Either one of these should suffice.

Thanks!

[imsowitty]

I've wanted to have kids since I was about 16 (I volunteered at a Daycare and just love kids), My Wife and I got married August 17th (I'm 28 now) November she's pregnant, I'm over joyed and Definatly not ready, I honestly don't think your ever ready but in the end I know it will all be woth it and work out.

[maximize]

I've wanted to have kids since I was about 16 (I volunteered at a Daycare and just love kids), My Wife and I got married August 17th (I'm 28 now) November she's pregnant, I'm over joyed and Definatly not ready, I honestly don't think your ever ready but in the end I know it will all be woth it and work out.[/b]

Absolutely! With an attitude like that, you're already ready. Good luck.

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[MimiTwinG]

I love hearing all of these stories and comments from you dads!!! I don't know any of you buy it I'm sure you all make great fathers!

[maximize]

I don't know any of you buy it I'm sure you all make great fathers![/b]

Thanks, but not me. I was a terrible dad — much better now. But I'm a really good grandpa. . .

[KCFaninSTL]

Our philosophy....

If you wait until you're financialy ready, you'll never have the kids. So, just jump into it! You find a way to make it all work.

[nicole1977]

I started a new thread, lol Wrong place sorry boys.

[kannee]

To have kids?

My DH and I have known we'd always want to be parents... I was too scared until about the last year and now DH is too worried about money to start trying now. So when did you feel ready enough to try (white knuckle it?) [/b]

We talked about it for awhile before going ahead with it. I always wanted to be child free by age 50 and I'm 40 now with a 5 yr old stepchild so that idea isn't going to happen.

So what the heck, we did it.