[vivi]

ok, well i was a little worried about this after i gave birth but that was 18 months ago,
and i honestly say that i still have not found my drive !
i love dh very much, and i dont know what to say,

has anyone else gone through this? should i do or can i do anything about this?

[Sassy5d]

ok, well i was a little worried about this after i gave birth but that was 18 months ago,
and i honestly say that i still have not found my drive !
i love dh very much, and i dont know what to say,

has anyone else gone through this? should i do or can i do anything about this?[/b]

Well, the good news is it's very common..
The bad news is, there are probably many factors influencing you...

1-Body Image-If you're having problems with your body image-its going to affect your bedroom relationship.
2-If you're breastfeeding-Its been known to affect your bedroom relationship.
3-Medications-If you're on any-it can affect your bedroom relationship
4-Exhaustion-Same thing
5-Fear's-If you are scared of getting pregnant again, or if you had some personal trauma during the birthing process.. that also can affect things..

The best advice I can give you right now, without knowing what is going on with you personally.. Is to tell you to step a few steps back, and to evaluate your situation.. Do any of the above apply to you?

If you think any of the above things are bothering you-then we can go from there..

I just wanted to let you know that it IS very common, and its usually VERY easy to *fix*

Becky

[aescudero]

Vivi~I'm right there with you! I have NO sex drive whatsoever anymore. I honestly think I could go the rest of my life without sex! LOL!! I know that being so exausted is the main reason, but even when I'm caught up on sleep it's the same thing! My poor DH is always asking why I never want sex anymore....

[mommy2sarah]

I'm right there with ya. I had no desire during my pregnancy and now 5 months later I still don't and the husband is not liking it. Our marriage isn't doing well cause of it.

[Admin-Twinkle]

Are you on birth control? I know some types of birth control can diminish sex drive for people. I know when I was on it (for the short time that I was) I had no sex drive either.

[venessa04]

i went through the same thing and still going through it. i think it might of been my bc i got off of it a couple of months ago then got a yeast infection. and now i feel as if its coming back. good luck

[Sassy5d]

Have you tried just having sex just to have it?

Sometimes when we don't have sex for awhile, we kinda start thinking its just more work..LOL

They always say, the more sex you have, the more sex you want... I guess it would work both ways, the less you have, the less you want