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April 26th, 2006, 05:16 AM
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the father of my child has not been active during my pregnancy at all. he lives an hours drive away from me which could have something to do with it but youd think he could pick up a phone every once and a while. anyways, when he first found out i was pregnant he told me to get an abortion. i told him no but i would consider adoption. it sounds as if he wont give up his parental rights to free this child for adoption though i guess we will be raising this child. well when i first found out i asked him if he wanted to be in the delivery room and he said no. i made other arrangements to have my family in there and now it sounds like he does want to be there. my family has told me that if he is there they wont be. so my question is what would you have done if the mother of your child didnt let you into the delivery room? i am still trying to decide who to have in there. i am thinking my family since they are the ones who will need to take me and they are the ones i will be going home with, but i think he deserves the right to see his son being born. thanks for any advice you have.[/b]
First question are you still involved with this guy? It might change my reply. But Either way I think you should talk to your family about this. He's the Childs Father and has every right to be there, and you being the Mother should get what you want. Did they give a reason why if he's there they wouldn't be. I Hope I'm not out of line here but this is going to be one of the Most joyus days of your life and it seems your Family is causing unnessesary Drama. They should be thinking of you not them selves. Just my 2 cents. Good luck and Congrats
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April 27th, 2006, 05:15 AM
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That does sound like a predicament. I say let him be there. Kind of like you My wife and I are completely brought up differently. She was raised upperclass in a nice small town and I was Poor as hell inner city Gang violence raised. Her parents probably aren't to proud of my wifes choice in men, But they support her because she thier family. Thats what family is though unconditional love. This is your Day in the end it's your say. The both should be able to be mature and realise this isn't about them not liking each other this is about you bringing a beautiful life into this world you'd have no reason for guilt by getting exactly what you want on what is probably the biggest day of you life. But I don't know the whole story so I just might be talking crap. Thats Just My opinion. Good luck.

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There is a life involved here, one that he may or may not be responsible for creating but one he has had the courage to take some responsibility for sustaining.

For that he deserves to be there.
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