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I joined this site because I'm in desperate need of help. My 7 month old WILL NOT SLEEP and I don't know what to do. She will sleep if I am holding her, but as soon as I set her in the crib she wakes right up and cries until I pick her up. I can't do CIO. I briefly tried it, and I can't do it. If she is just talking/whining then I leave her be but the minute she cries, I go get her. Just wondering if there are any options to get her to start sleeping that don't involve CIO?
She was sleeping through the night (since she was 3 months old) but last night she woke up at about 1am and didn't go back to sleep until about 2:30 (I had to hold her to get her to sleep) and then today she woke up at about 12:30am and is still awake now. I don't know what to do
The Mommy Lounge is a general chit-chat board really - I'm not sure if any ladies here will have any good advice for you, as they come here for a chinwag really and have kids at all sorts of stages. Personally my son is now 5 and was a good sleeper as a baby so not much springs to mind.
I do think one of the things that contributed to him being a good sleeper was routine. He didn't have too much sleep during the day by 7 months, maybe just 1 or 2 short naps, and he had 5 feeds/drinks during the course of the day so he was always full at bed-time. He knew when night was coming because we would close the curtains, give him a bath and change him into PJs about an hour before bed-time, and watch CBeebies bedtime hour or read him a story so he knew it was quiet time - all toys would be away by then. If he wouldn't settle alone or cried in bed (because he did have night terrors at times) we didn't do CIO either - one of us would go in and cuddle him, then put him back down and stroke his head or his hand for a bit, then move away but remain in the room for a bit, and finally leave him once he was calm and dozy again. If he woke in the night crying we would check he didn't need anything - change his nappy, offer water, take his temp and give Calpol or remove/add layers of clothes if needed - and then just repeat the process, stroking his hand for a bit, but lying down ourselves to show that it was categorically bed-time. I've also heard black-out blinds are good because babies respond to light/dark - we never needed them for my son thankfully.
You may get some better advice from ladies in your playroom who will have children at a similar age and may be going through the same thing. On the main message board page, look through the playrooms for your daughter's birth month and year to find it. You may also want to try the Attachment Parenting board where they are also opposed to CIO, or the Children's Health board. Scroll down the main message board page - they'll both be a little lower down.
I would also try the swing. I know with my son xander when he would wake in the middle of the night for a feeding he wouldn't lay down again but I put him in his swing and he was out like a light and happy.