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  #1  
October 23rd, 2006, 03:09 PM
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Does anyone else feel the way I do.. That bedroom time just seems like another chore around the house?

I'm not saying that when things do happen they are lousy.. it's not that.. they are great.. when I finally get the motivation to do anything..*wink wink*

I feel so silly.. last night I said ok bedroom time will be promised every sunday night that I don't work.. I said, what a wonderful way to end your week.. and a great way to start your new work week..
I have no desire at all.. and its not that I'm not attracted or don't like it.. I do.. it just seems so pointless to me anymore.. but I want to somewhat keep him happy...

Anyone else in my camp?

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October 23rd, 2006, 05:44 PM
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I feel that way too sometimes. Between my family, work, home, bills etc.....who feels like it! I lack the motivation. It's hard to keep things fun, feisty and exciting in the bedroom when you are sooo tired. Any suggestions, Ladies??????
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October 24th, 2006, 04:30 AM
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Oh wow--it's like you read my mind! I am the SAME way--once it's happening, I am fine, but sometimes I am just like, can't I just relax!
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October 24th, 2006, 06:05 AM
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sometimes , if I am tired, I might not be in the mood, but I know how important intamacy is to my marriage and it really isn't like it takes an hour and it isn't something that happens everyday. I know that the longer I go without it, the less important to me it becomes, so I make sure if dh is in the mood, I get in the mood too. It doesn't take much and I am always glad I did.
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October 24th, 2006, 06:17 AM
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Sometimes I think Im the only one out there Right now its been a bit over a month....I just dont have it in me. Its not that Im not attracted to dh or anything like that because I am and he really is good in bed but there is no motivation there from ME. It could also have a lot to do with kids and his work hours (there aweful).
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October 25th, 2006, 03:04 PM
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Oh yeah - No desire at all. It really does feel like just another chore I have to do. It's like doing the laundry - lol. I never WANT to do the laundry, but I know I've got to do it. lol.

Sex is actually the BIGGEST if not only real problem between DH and I. I've got no labido and he's got a massive one. If he goes more then 2 days without some lovin', he get cranky and pissy. There are days when he wants it two or three times and I'm just like "We already did that today!" and he gets upset *sigh*
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October 28th, 2006, 12:42 PM
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October 30th, 2006, 07:09 AM
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I am lucky that my DH is very understanding, although he does get aggravated! The one thing we do have is every Wed. is 'date night' so it's scheduled. Although to some people, this can make you dread it, but it's the 1 night, I don't have to worry about listening for Troy--that's one of my hardest things! Here is another question--did anyone who breastfed have issues with him paying attention to your 'girls' while you were BF or even after? I seem to feel like he's doing something wrong and that's the only thing I can even think would cause this--I have seen them used for something other than sex????
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October 30th, 2006, 11:58 AM
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I was totally uncomfortable with it even tho i dried up after two weeks and was extremely unsuccessful with breastfeeding (very depressing) but even now 15 months later it grosses me out rather than turns me on i dont know the sensation there is totally different to me!!











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I am lucky that my DH is very understanding, although he does get aggravated! The one thing we do have is every Wed. is 'date night' so it's scheduled. Although to some people, this can make you dread it, but it's the 1 night, I don't have to worry about listening for Troy--that's one of my hardest things! Here is another question--did anyone who breastfed have issues with him paying attention to your 'girls' while you were BF or even after? I seem to feel like he's doing something wrong and that's the only thing I can even think would cause this--I have seen them used for something other than sex????[/b]
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October 30th, 2006, 12:33 PM
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We have to remind each other about sex! We're so busy all the time! There are only 2 days out of the week that we don't have something to do. But when we do get around to it, it's great. There aren't any issues at all really. Thank GOD!

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October 31st, 2006, 07:39 AM
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I can totally relate!
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October 31st, 2006, 10:51 AM
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I feel the same way too. I have spoken to my doctor about this and she thinks it might partially to do with the BCP that I am currently taking. I have switched and have found that this has helped out a lot. I seriously could have written that post a while back. It is so hard to find the time for ourselves these days. Plus it doesn't help that hubby goes to bed later than I do. Finding the time pre-baby was WAY easier than post-baby!
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