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My wife wants another baby but I am not sure I do. We have 3 already.. she thinks we should have a 4th so that Keira who is 7 months will have someone close to her age to grow up with. The other 2 are 8 and 12. Not sure what to do.
My wife wants another baby but I am not sure I do. We have 3 already.. she thinks we should have a 4th so that Keira who is 7 months will have someone close to her age to grow up with. The other 2 are 8 and 12. Not sure what to do.[/b]
Tough call. You should express your uncertainty and give her some kind of explanation she can consider why NOT to have a 4th. Besides, I think having older siblings isn't such a bad thing. You always have models from which you can learn lessons (mistakes and triumphs) and for a large portion of your life (while they're off at college) get to be the center of attention!
I did chores around the house, so "center of attention" also meant double the labor lol.
There are pros and cons to both sides and it all comes down to personal choice. I can name reasons for not having large families and some for having them. I can do the same for them being close in age. In the end, it comes down to what's important to you and what you feel you can handle.
The best advice I can give? Do NOT just say no in some form. When people do that, there's a tendency to come across as hostile. Give reasons, even if it's uncomfortable. If you don't feel you can handle it, say it. Be sure to specify if it's more of a temporary thing. If you want to wait a while for whatever reason, say it. The overall thing here is to talk. And if it's uncomfortable, too you have to cope with it. Not talking and not understanding will only make things MUCH more uncomfortable.
I'd give more personal perspectives, but:
1) I'm (sadly) not really a daddy yet
2) I think this is something one should learn on their own about him or herself