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February 24th, 2008, 11:57 AM
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How would you explain to a 4, almost 5 year old about death. We just received news that grampa has 6 months left. Should we bring him to the funeral when the time comes?
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February 25th, 2008, 02:03 PM
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First off, I wanted to offer hugs.

For me personally, I would not let my four or five year old go to the funeral. I would honestly just sourround them with pictures of their loved one, and let them remember them as they were. Funerals seem to help adults cope, but I can't imagine that it would help a toddler.

I also would keep any explanation of death short and sweet. Tell them that Grampa got sick and depending on your religion, tell them about heaven. Explain that Grampa will always be alive in pictures, memories, videos, and in your heart, but that God needed him in heaven. Only answer what ever questions the child asks.

Best of luck!
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sorry to hear about this. I think Sara explained it pretty well.
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March 13th, 2008, 10:42 AM
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My cousin died when my brother was almost 3. We had a babysitter watch him for the wake, but did bring him to the funeral. He doesn't remember it at all.
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March 13th, 2008, 12:54 PM
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I think it depends on your child and your families behavior at wakes and funerals. Maybe get a sitter but bring him to the get together after the funeral, or skip the funeral parlor for him and maybe just take him to the church service. Be careful about using the word "sick" when explaining what happened to grandpa or he could become very nervous when someone else is "sick"
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March 14th, 2008, 08:42 AM
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I know when my dad died my kids took it bad my 2 1/2 yr old didn't really understand but she understands he is gone now and want be coming back they seem okay now to know he is in a better place then he was in my 4 1/2 yr old was upset when we told her but she understood...we did not take them to the furneal.
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Quote:
First off, I wanted to offer hugs.

For me personally, I would not let my four or five year old go to the funeral. I would honestly just sourround them with pictures of their loved one, and let them remember them as they were. Funerals seem to help adults cope, but I can't imagine that it would help a toddler.

I also would keep any explanation of death short and sweet. Tell them that Grampa got sick and depending on your religion, tell them about heaven. Explain that Grampa will always be alive in pictures, memories, videos, and in your heart, but that God needed him in heaven. Only answer what ever questions the child asks.

Best of luck![/b]
ditto. this seems like the best way to deal with a very unfortunate situation like this. I will keep you in my T&P's.
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