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So I was talking to my MIL on MSN and she was like, "guess what! I'm a vegetarian now". I was like, "thats nice" until she told me why. Her kidneys are failing and she can't eat meat anymore because she needs to be on a strict diet. She is so happy though because she says she feels better than ever and her skin looks 10 years younger and she doesn't ever feel bloated anymore. She then goes on how she needs to see the urologist but hasn't gotten an appointment yet, but at least she has an appointment with neurosurgeon.... which is for the consultation for her brain surgery to clear up at least one of her aneurysm. she was telling me all this as if she was talking about the gossip at church. she was so nonchalant. so of course i get upset at my DH for not telling me and letting it catch me so off guard... and lo and behold, he didn't know at all. so i upset him while he is at work and can't call her. i don't really know what to do. i know there is nothing i can do but... i'm confused.
I'm sorry about that! Maybe she was just trying not to worry you guys and stay upbeat about everything. She may be trying to hold onto whatever good she can. Yesterday, my dad came home from work with he news that he is going to be laid off for a week in July. He was trying to stay upbeat saying that at least he wasn't getting laid off for 5 weeks like some people and that the week he is being laid off he was going to be on vacation for 2 days anyway so he can stay at our house with my mom instead of having to go back home but my mom was all upset and crying and mad that he was being so "happy" about it. Not nearly as serious as what your MIL is facing but the point is that she has had time to deal with this news and process it and try to find some good in it. I'm sure her initial reaction to the news was as upset as you are feeling now that you've heard. It's ok for you both to feel upset by her serious health issues, but try to stay positive for her and help her make the best of the situation. What's done, is done, and the only thing to do is move forward and take the best options to recover as much as she possibly can. Hugs sweetie, as you are dealing with this hard situation!