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So, I extended the old olive branch once again to the old MIL....and guess what....I suggested that she come down and we could go do some Christmas shopping together. This was supposed to happen yesterday (her birthday). So my husband calls her to tell her happy birthday and she says "tell her I am not going shopping b/c I don't feel well enough, I don't have enough money and don't want to make the drive".........so basically she made up some lame a** excuses after she was so excited about going and decided she didn't want to do it. SO.....she drives an hour or so to her other son's house and they go out to eat at some fancy restaurant and to the casino...I was like so she doesn't feel well enough to come down here and doesn't have any money but she feels well enough to drive up there, eat a bunch of food and has money to go to the casino! ***? I told my husband I am so done with trying to be nice to her. We are not going shopping at all now, she can forget it. I am not going out of my way to be nice to her anymore or to even talk to her. I am resigned to the fact that as long as I'm married to my husband I will put up with her when I have to but beyond that I'm done with her. DH's dad is just as cold to me, at Nate's birthday party, he maybe said 2 words to me other than when I asked him a question. They don't talk, they aren't nice, it just gets really old....I realize I may not be who they would've chosen for their son but he's happy and that should be all that matters. I will never be good enough for them or measure up to their standards and that's okay b/c that's their problem. Lord knows they would never take the initiative to get to know me so they could actually see what I'm like. They decided to hate me from the beginning and it won't change no matter how hard I try to make it change. His mom actually said he ruined his life when he married me and got me pregnant. She said the same thing about his brother. It's so frustrating but it must suck to be her to act like that. I'm sure it must take a lot of energy.