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December 8th, 2008, 01:02 PM
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So now I have a dilemma. Today my husband tells me that he wants to go to his parents by his self and pick up/drop off gifts. While I should be okay with this, I feel like it is only going to make things worse in the long run. It's not like I am particularly looking forward to seeing his parents but I feel that if he goes alone it will make me look like the bad guy and they will feel that I am keeping Nathan from them and in the end only make things worse for me. What would you do? How would you handle this?
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December 8th, 2008, 02:03 PM
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Hmmm...that is a dilema. On the one hand, it might be better if just DH goes, but on the other, if you can go and keep the stay short it might be worth it to try. Really it's up to you. I wouldn't be too concerned about what they think of you though. I would just talk it over with DH and if you decide to go make him agree to it being a short visit - whatever length of time you decide. Maybe your could come up with a signal too if you feel you need to leave sooner! Hugs and good luck on making that decision. KUP
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December 8th, 2008, 06:20 PM
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Def do what you want to do, not based on what you think they would want you to or on what you think they would say!! But if you feel that you want to go, then go and just keep it short and sweet. Good luck with your decision!!!
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December 9th, 2008, 12:40 PM
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I hate to say it, but you probably should go with him. The only reason I say this is because I could imagine them saying to others that you couldn't even show up. It would just add fuel to the fire and give them something to complain about. Try to make the visit short if possible.
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December 9th, 2008, 01:11 PM
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I convinced him to have them come here the Sunday before Christmas. They won't get here until around noon or 1 pm and they'll leave by 5 or 6pm so they can spend money on gas, etc. and we can stay home .....The only thing is if we went there we could control how long we stay but they will only be here around 4 hours or so...which I can handle (I think) And the other thing about us going there was he didn't want his 2 brothers and/or their families around and if they found out we were going to be there they would just show up like they did last year and he says he doesn't want them around this year. Which I am thankful for b/c I am just not ready to see his brother's new baby yet. It is hateful and wrong of me but I can't have another and my son gets mistreated by in laws and we always thought it was b/c he was a boy, not a girl, but new baby is a boy and is the apple of grandma's eye...so I am having a hard time even wanting to see this baby and I def. don't want to do it now....someday maybe.....but that's for another post So anyways, they are coming to our house and that will be done and over with.
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December 9th, 2008, 06:02 PM
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Good to hear! Atleast they have to behave in your house!
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