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and i feal really bad about it but she just drove me to my breaking point
anyways so it was nates birthday party and she came about an hour before the party started, which i knew she was and i was ok with that but she walks in the door, i get no hi or anything she walks right by me and picks up one of the boys and then looks back at me and says arnt you going to go get my bags, you know i cant carry anything up your steps. my dh was there too and he was like ill go get them ma. and when he came back i heard her say something like i cant believe she made you get those bags i told her to get them and then she said i cant believe pam is going to have a party with the house looking like this and takes the broom and starts sweeping
then she comes into the kitchen and sees what im cooking for dinner and tell me that we cant afford to be feeding a bunch of people this and we should of had hot dogs. then she hands me a bag with two outfits in them and says hear these are for nates birthday, i got them to fit nick because i figured then nate would be able to use them next year and they will get more use you need to rap them for me and she goes back to the livening room and says that the room stinks and asks if i had air spray stuff and im getting really mad at this point so go upstairs and try to cool off for a min. i come back down and spread out a table cloth over the table and after i walk away from it she goes over to it and like fixes it out and this was just the straw that broke the candles back and i just lost it and told her to sit don't and not to touch a thing that this was not her house and that it was time she learned some manners and if she couldn't say something nice to the shut her mouth. among some other things. that kinda needed to be said but without be yelling at her
Hmmm...I probably would've let her have it to after listening to all that. My MIL is the same but not with me. She harps on her oldest son's wife (my SIL) all the time...too much junk in the house, the house is dirty, you don't cook right, you don't watch the kids good enough, etc....Your husband needs to stand up for you and back you up so you two are a team so she sees he 's not going to stand for it.
I don't blame you for yelling at her. I would have had a total meltdown. I tell DH that since my ancestry is Scottish and Cherokee that I have a little, tiny temper when someone pushes me too far.
My MIL is so obsessive compulsive that it isn't even funny. I actually told DH today that I am glad we live on the third floor and she won't climb all those steps after seeing her at her daughter's house and the house DH's twin shares with his gf. MIL cleans things to her specifications and reorganizes things to fit her idea of where they should be. When we were at my BILs house eight days ago, she proceeded to sweep the floor, put all the toys in the toy box and start scolding BIL because the laundry room actually had dirty laundry in it. I love her, but she has definite ideas about how things need to be cleaned and organized and there are two ways to do things (her way and "the wrong way").