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My dh was chatting online with his mom's dh (he doesn't consider him a step dad because he was 16 when they started dating and i guess he was never a dad figure) who said they might be coming up on the 11th since 'they have to be close to here anyway.' My dh didn't even realize it was easter weekend and we have plans. But it is fine and i am willing to change my plans but now my mil is playing her maybe we will visit maybe not game She said she was not sure about their plans and would get back to us, that was 11 days ago now. I know it's not a huge deal but I really want to know if they are coming and when and how long so i can finalize my plans. I emailed her and she hasn't responded yet, that was 8 days ago or so. I really think that if you invite yourself to someone's you should have the courtesy to let them know when and how long you are staying. She wants us to give her as much noice as possible before a visit, at least 2 weeks so why can't she do the same?? My sil knows more about her plans to visit us then we do, i so don't understand my mil. I was going to get my dh to call her but now if she doesn't call or email by friday i will just go ahead with the plans i had initially made and forget her. I am just so annoyed and am trying not to let her get to me.
I think at this point I would say, well I'm not sure if or when you are coming so these are our plans and you're welcome to visit around them. If they can't give you times then they can't expect you to rearrange your plans and sit at home waiting for them. Too bad.
Thanks ladies! I broke down and emailed her again (why i do this i have no idea except that it drives me nuts not knowing) asking is they were coming and when and nothing so I have firmed up the plans and she will just have to work around us if she actually decides to show up. I dont mean to go on and on but I just don't get why she doesnt call my dh or email back, even to say she is not sure yet or whatever. But I refuse to call when her hubby is the one that invited themselves over. Oh well I can't control her actions!
Last edited by LauraG; April 6th, 2009 at 05:13 AM.
tell YOUR Dh to sort it out. I stopped arranging things with my ILs - i tell DH to do it. In that way i can be out the loop and its his responsibility. Also, my ILs are less likely to mess him around and get to me ......