[LadyCoconut]

Have your ILs made comments to you that are so hurtful/bad that no matter how much you may dislike them you wouldn't ever tell your DH they said it? Do you feel the need to protect your DH from how awful your ILs truly are? Does he know they suck or think they're okay & you guys just don't get along?

[ragmama]

No way. If they say anything hurtful to me, DH knows about it. We agreed long ago that (to the appropriate extent), he deals with issues with his parents and I deal with issues with mine. I certainly wouldn't let my mom, for instance, get away with saying something rotten (and unfounded) to him without calling her on it, and I wouldn't expect him not to stand up for me as well.

[MomtoKatieB]

I didn't tell DH immediately that MIL had called DD a little B*&^%. I told him after my mother was in IN with us, helping us pack to move to NC. It was easier to tell him when I had someone to help me take care of DD so I didn't feel so overwhelmed. I let him know that his mom is totally nuts, although he does try to make a few excuses for her (MIL being a cancer survivor and heavily medicated for mental health issues)

I can honestly say that if MIL was to say something rude/hateful/horrid to me, DF would know about it. She's already said some hateful things to him about me, BEHIND me back...

[Ima]

i tell DH so she wouldn't dare. she did say rotten things during the engagement but she learn t her lesson.......

[Lilmom]

Originally Posted by MomtoKatieB

I didn't tell DH immediately that MIL had called DD a little B*&^%. I told him after my mother was in IN with us, helping us pack to move to NC. It was easier to tell him when I had someone to help me take care of DD so I didn't feel so overwhelmed. I let him know that his mom is totally nuts, although he does try to make a few excuses for her (MIL being a cancer survivor and heavily medicated for mental health issues)

Sounds kinda like my MIL She says all manner of rotten nasty things to me and gets off pretty might because shes got mental issues and is a cancer survivor.

I tell him everything she says though. He pretty much hates her at this point, but is unwilling to totally cut her off becuase if he did she would self destruct. For reals. Theres been a couple of times where she bahved so badly we cut her off for just a month or two and man... she went nuts.

[KAB]

My DH already knows how much his parents suck, I tell him everything that they say to me and nothing surprises him, sadly he's used to them.

[LG1385]

My IL's don't say things directly. They imply it, and I'm very sensitive to tone of voice. So my husband doesn't pick up on these things. And I tell him later, no matter what it is. Sometimes he defends them, or sometimes he will say he didn't notice and I tell him to pay more attention because he should be defending me!

[ashleighgurl]

They haven't really said anything bad, but I would tell DH.

[BigGrin]

Once my MIL told me that she had "all these dreams about when our son becomes a doctor...that he'd support us. Now he's married and we have to split the money with you." I was shocked...so basically their son is nothing more than a paycheck. She literally stated he was an "investment" and now the returns aren't what they expected.

[jennmommyoftwobeauties]

When it comes to the mean things my FIL tells me or says to me I tell him right away. I do not keep anything from him. At times I think he is tired of hearing about it considering according to him there is nothing that can be done since he is not here. I know that he does not think the same of his parents as he used to. He makes snarky comments such as he hopes he gets stationed in California (we are on the east coast now--so is his parents), and I said we will be away from my family (and mentioned not that they would be all that big a deal) then mentioned his and the same thing. He said oh that is a good thing isn't it?

[acupofjoe]

Originally Posted by mrsrowe2b

I can honestly say that if MIL was to say something rude/hateful/horrid to me, DF would know about it. She's already said some hateful things to him about me, BEHIND me back...

mine is my Fmil but this is exactly the way mine is to. crazy B!!