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April 28th, 2011, 09:02 AM
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Okay so I have not posted here since joining JM because until yesterday my contact with my in-laws has been basically nada for the last year. My FIL and BIL live hours away and although they call we rarely see them, my one SIL we havent spoken to since x-mas 09 because her and my husband were never close my other SIL is awesome so no complaints there. My MIL however is a nightmare!! Her and my husband havent spoken in a year. He did call her on Christmas but she told our oldest son that she hadnt called him because she was afraid she would get into trouble with my husband. She also told her son (BIL) that I was the reason that her an dmy hubby weren't talking although I had nothing to do with their fight. After Christmas she made no effort to call or see the kids until yesterday. She randomly called on our oldest son's birthday and then proceeded to complain to my husband about not being invited to our youngest son's 1st birthday which was last August (what it took you 8 months to realize it????)Then asks if we can come see her this weekend.

When I said to my husband that we were not going to see her because she had really hurt out children, not bothered to apologize and expects us to just go to her house and pretend nothing happened he was mad. HE told me that if I wanted to ruin our marriage over this than that is my problem. Seriously?? I have spent to many days telling the kids that it wasnt their fault she wouldnt call them or see them. I am angry and hurt by her behaviour and I am not ready to just act like nothing happened. She needs to earn our trust and she needs to put all the effort in. I straight up hate her and I really enjoyed a year of not dealing with her drama and bs.

Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you ladies do?
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April 28th, 2011, 02:56 PM
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No you're not wrong, however, don't deny the kids from seeing their grandmother either. If you don't want to be around her, then don't go but let hubby take the kids.
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May 21st, 2011, 08:12 PM
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You are right and he is wrong. The children should not be put in the middle of this. He is trying to use the children to win his mother's love. Tell him the grown ups have to work out their problems first, you won't allow the children to be used or caught in the middle.

I am so sorry you are going through this (((hugs))))
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May 26th, 2011, 09:10 AM
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You are right and he is wrong. The children should not be put in the middle of this. He is trying to use the children to win his mother's love. Tell him the grown ups have to work out their problems first, you won't allow the children to be used or caught in the middle.

I am so sorry you are going through this (((hugs))))
Thank you that is exactly how I feel. I want to make sure him and his Mom sort things out before I let the kids be put in a situation that could get them hurt again. Since she called on his B-day she hasn't called again and although my husband called her and had the kids wish her a Happy Birthday and Mother's Day she is still not making an effort. I am so relieved that we didnt go see her because clearly she still isnt interested in a relationship with them beyond a phone call on their birthdays.
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