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So I was hoping I could join you girls and maybe get a little support with my MIL. Here is my story lol....
GRRRRR i'm in such a bad mood right now! So I dont get along at all with my mil. We started out cool and were fine and then as soon as I got pregnant with Zaylee she hated me! So we have had our MANY issues and we have had a "talk" and though everything was okay with us - which lasted oh maybe a month, and then there she goes again treating me like ****. NEVER buying Eamon anything (because he's mine), but she will spend hundreds of dollars on Jasmine (marks daughter- not mine). She said one day that she's gonna take Jasmine, and her two cousins to the movies and guess who she didnt invite....Yep Eamon - Cause hes mine! So recently at my daughters birthday party that which had the nerve to IGNORE me in my own house. Didnt even bother to say one word to me - said bye to my daughtr who i was holding in my arms and then walked out the door. This lady raises my blood pressure like no other! So this weekend she takes Jasmine for the weekend to uy her clothes and toys and guess who she didnt buy a single thing for===Yep Eamon. I'm so beyond sick of this lady i can't stand it. I wish she wasn't even in my life it would be a heck of a lot less stressful. Marks family seems to think that "we" (marks mom and I) need to figure it out and we are both at fault, but the thing is I'm not at fault by any means, I have tried to be a "friend" to her and be nice to her, yet she hates me for whatever reason. I have never done anything to her to make her hate me or my two kids. TOnight when she dropped of jasmine - i'm standing right there and she walks past me like i'm not even there doesn't say a single word to me. I mean i'm so over trying to be nice to her or even trying in general. I can't stand her and honestly I dont care if she likes me at all. Mark has told her many times to stop treating me and eamon like ****, but she doesnt listen she honestly treats mark like crap 90% of the time as welll.
I don't really have any good advice for you but I'm so sorry that she's behaving so poorly. It's so sad when adults let their personal feelings and grudges be taken out on innocent children, since in the grand scheme of things it is your son who is missing out on a relationship with his grandmother. I can't imagine how painful that must be, especially when he's watching his sister and cousins be showered with attention.
Unless she changes her attitude there isn't really anything you can do. His grandma is ignoring him and that is going to hurt him no matter what. The only thing I can suggest doing is doing what you can to show him love and value from you, from his father and from the rest of the family.
It might be at a point where I would consider distancing yourselves as a family from her, since it sounds like she causes not only you and your son but your husband a lot of hurt and frustration. My only concern with that would be what it would mean for your stepdaughter, who does have a relationship with her, and for what it could mean for your family if the rest of your family isn't holding your mil accountable (in other words, would avoiding her mean losing time with the rest of the family who does treat you well?).
Definitely doesn't sound like an easy situation. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
*Cautiously and excitedly expecting number two - shhh, if we're friends on Facebook. *
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Last edited by Keakie; October 24th, 2011 at 01:42 AM.