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July 24th, 2006, 08:40 PM
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...marry a man who works with his parents.

My MIL puts DH down on a daily basis at work and so he always comes home in a bad mood. He hardly talks to his dad and when he does its usually a fight about the factory. They also expect him to do overtime for no extra pay, be called in on the weekends when the place should be closed and this also gives his mother full access to what DH earns. This then leads to my MIL again putting DH down, usually by saying that we were stupid for wanting kids now as in her eyes we can't afford it, even though she has no idea of what I earn.

It also means that any family problems are bought up at work and no work gets done. He would quit and get another job but he stands to inherit the buisness when his dad retires (that's never gonna happen though).

aarrgh! I really don't like my MIL. Can you tell? She doesn't like me either. Why? Because years ago when DH and I first started dating she asked if I wanted to go antique shopping with her and I said no as I have no interest in them. She also thinks that I am only after DH for his money (um hello, she knows how much he earns, there is no way I am after him for his money), because we moved in together 8 weeks after we started dating.

Its nice to know I have somewhere to vent about them to others who go through similar things with their in-laws or as I like to call them out-laws.
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July 24th, 2006, 10:38 PM
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So sorry this is all going on for you 2.
A few years ago my MIL wanted my DH to work with her, though she didn't own the company. But it would have just been a bad situation and since she was the book keeper, she would have had full access to his earnings and everything, plus back then we still were not getting along too much so she told DH if he got the job there she wanted to be the sole beneficiary to his 401K and everything. But DH said NO because he knows it would have caused friction in our marriage and even though he makes crap money for what he does as an EMT, he would have made less money installing cabinets/counters. And his heart is in EMS.

But this is good advice for anyone who is thinking of working with their parents (remember your parents are DH's IL's and sometimes the shoe is also on the other foot) or their DH is thinking of going to work for his parents.
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July 25th, 2006, 09:26 AM
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Wow that's terrible, so sorry that is happening!!! Thankfully DH doesn't work with his parents, but his dad is unemployed and get social security, so he has nothing better to do than call DH at work all day long.
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July 25th, 2006, 09:41 AM
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Hmm maybe he should get a hobby. My FIL has been retired since the early '90s and he finds stuff to fill his day besides bugging his grown kids, especially at work.
Now we are not the first kids he calls when he needs something because the 4 others live in the same city as him and we live 20 minutes away. But if the other kids are not available, he will call my DH or me which is fine.
We buy him computer games, books (on his favorite subjects such as sports, buffalos, Native American stuff, etc.) and DVDs so he has stuff to fill his time when it comes time for Christmas, his birthday or Father's Day.
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