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July 25th, 2006, 08:06 PM
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in-laws after you have a baby and they try to take over your baby?? I see this happen to others and I am just curious on how do you deal with it?? Maybe it will be good advice for the future when I get preggo. My in-laws try to take over now with my stepkids and I don't like it so I am sure that it will be worse when we have a baby!!
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July 25th, 2006, 08:31 PM
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My MIL now has never tried to take over any of my children but my ex-MIL did. I allowed it to happen till I had the nerve to leave her son (who was physically and verbally abusive).
When I had my DD she was always trying to take over my daughter. When my husband was working, she would insist I go over there with her and she would literally make me go lay down while SHE took care of the baby. Not knowing any better, I did exactly as I was told. She even tried to gain custody of my daughter by calling child services on me. For 2 days my DD was placed with her and she was so elated but threw a fit when child services told her there was nothing wrong with the house, my parenting, etc. and continually called them on me throughout the remaining 2 months of the marriage.

My biggest advice is to stand your ground and tell your MIL it is YOUR child and you are going to raise him/her as you see fit. Just remember a lot of people are going to offer advice. Just decide what you are going to listen to and what you are not.
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July 25th, 2006, 11:02 PM
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I am a stay at home step mom right now and we are ttc our first together. (you probably already knew that but for those that didn't) After a period of time I have stopped a few things that have been going on but its almost like a cycle. One thing stops and another starts all over again. I know that they really mean well but sometimes they drive me crazy. They are so sweet and caring though. They have totally accepted me into the family as their daughter etc but I can foresee a very bad problem when I finally do have a baby. They are a very cose-knit family and that is wonderful but sometimes you don't need everyone to know your business. KWIM??
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July 26th, 2006, 05:02 AM
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in-laws after you have a baby and they try to take over your baby?? I see this happen to others and I am just curious on how do you deal with it?? Maybe it will be good advice for the future when I get preggo. My in-laws try to take over now with my stepkids and I don't like it so I am sure that it will be worse when we have a baby!![/b]
Put your foot down now!
It's hard even for me to do but seriously start saying it the way it is now and put your foot down--be strong against them
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July 26th, 2006, 06:54 AM
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i am hoping they continue to ignore my existence (and therefore our baby's as well)
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July 26th, 2006, 08:07 AM
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establish boundries now, let them know who you feel about my mistake is I waited to long to tell them how I felt so its harder for them to break the habit of trying to parent my child...
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