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August 1st, 2006, 05:47 AM
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We have had this rule since I was pregnant and I have to ask if anyone else does this? Ask all visitors call before visiting? Is there something wrong with this "rule?" My inlaws hate it. We know that they do --we can just tell. I think it's just common courtesy especially with a baby!
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August 1st, 2006, 06:54 AM
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I think it's common courtesy even without a baby. Although I am one of those antisocial people so I hate visitors anyway lol. But I can tell my inlaws hate that I don't invite them over all the time. They shouldn't take it personally, I don't invite anyone over. But if I were to, it wouldn't be them.
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August 1st, 2006, 07:01 AM
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That's the way I am even if I didn't have a baby I still don't like people arriving un announced. I don't like just dropping in on other people either. And I am a bit anti social too! LOL
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August 1st, 2006, 10:26 AM
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I think it's so rude for people to just pop in
Hubby has a key to his parents house and he finds it perfectly okay to just walk in when needed or a few times (a few years ago) we just stopped briefly and he just walks in (what if they are like laying around naked or something? EEEWWWWW)
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I tell him all the time I don't like that! I don't expect people to do it to me and I don't wanna do it to others either!
Hubby and I had a huge talk the other night and he said it for like the 100th time he thinks his parents have a huge problem with having to call first to see if it's a good time for a visit before they come. He asked his Dad one time a few months ago if they were going to be around over the weekend or not cuz he wanted to make plans for us and his Dad said really cocky "What --do we have to make an appointment now?" Hubby said "No but I'd like to know if your coming or not so I don't wait around all weekend."
We do that ALL the time we expect "this is the weekend" they will be coming over so in the back of our minds we plan the day for company coming and more times than enough they don't come. One time when Jaden was smaller hubby told his parents "no" it was not a good time for a visit (I was up all night with a colic baby!) and told her the next day would be better, to call us. They never called. Finally at 6:30 we ran to the store and came back and there was a "disgusted" message on our answering machine. So hubby called them back. It was like 7:30 and we usually say no visitors after 7 but we went ahead and left them come over. MIL was a total ITCH! She was mad! It cracks me up. They must think we are to live our lives around them. If we would not have made the rule to call before you come they would be popping in our house at 9 at night or later. I don't go for that crap. And Erin as you said I agree it's proper manners!
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August 1st, 2006, 11:00 AM
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I am VERY much against the pop in visit..except a few very close girlfriends that I dont feel I need to play hostess too, but they are considerate and dont stay too long. FIL thinks because he is retrired he can come whenever he wants, no calls and expects my husband to take the day off work to spend time with him! Yes we own the business but no work still equals no pay..........
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August 2nd, 2006, 11:38 AM
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isn't our basic dilemma that we mostly all have ILs w/o any common courtesy?
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August 2nd, 2006, 11:53 AM
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Stick to your guns.. I do not allow people to come over without calling first. If they show up without a call I always say something to them and they get the point.

Just like next time my MIL comes over shes going to hear from me.. She ALWAYS just walks in the house.. That pisses me off.. Knock or ring the door bell and WAIT!! Dont just walk in.. GRRRRRRRRR
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August 2nd, 2006, 12:28 PM
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Stick to your guns.. I do not allow people to come over without calling first. If they show up without a call I always say something to them and they get the point.

Just like next time my MIL comes over shes going to hear from me.. She ALWAYS just walks in the house.. That pisses me off.. Knock or ring the door bell and WAIT!! Dont just walk in.. GRRRRRRRRR[/b]
Just walking in the door like that would really irritate me I'd say something then!
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August 3rd, 2006, 11:39 AM
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I think it is common courtesy as well. Plus, it is your house so your rules go. Too bad if they don't agree.
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