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Okay, well ... there's one SIL I like (DF's actual sister) and another SIL I don't like (DF's brother's wife).
I will have to say names so you can tell them apart ... so I'll give you their middle names since they'd flip if they knew I said their real names, even without their last names. DF's actual sister is Helen (the one I like) and DF's brother's wife is Marie (the one I don't like).
So Marie had the first grandbaby, and he's four now. His name is Seth. They went through a horrible time with her mom, because they wanted to name him Seven (not really my style but they loved it) and she said no way was her only grandson going to be named Seven. Ultimately they decided to name him Seth instead because her mom is really childish.
Then Helen got pregnant and it was a boy too. They went through the same crap with her inlaws because they wanted the first baby to be named after her husband (their son). So ultimately they named him Davin (after his daddy David, in a weird way ... the boy in my siggie), instead of her absolute favorite boy's name, Sebastian. She cried over this. Marie and I told her to screw them and give him the name she loved. Marie said this because at the time we all got along and she knew how much she resented naming her son Seth instead of Seven. I said this because ... well, because that's the kind of person I am with my inlaws! But she went ahead and named him Davin.
Now Helen has always said she ONLY wants 2 kids. No more. And she is praying the second, that they are TTC right now, will be a girl. So of course we were all sad that she'd never get to use her favorite boy's name. Marie knew she'd have more kids but her mom is still really mean, so she said instead of naming another Seven she'd just match all their initials (S.R.B.).
Marie just had another baby. A boy. And guess what she named him! Oh, you knew, didn't you? SEBASTIAN. Helen is so mad. I understand that it's still a sore spot for her and all, but she had the chance to use it and didn't ... plus saying that she doesn't want another boy, kind of says to me she doesn't care to use it in the future. I really like it and I'm glad someone did use it. But since Marie is "the mean SIL" everybody is jumping all over her, demanding that she change his name (my MIL suggested Spencer, actually, which Marie has already said she hates ).
I tried to keep my mouth shut when they were all bashing her, but honestly ... even though I don't like her, if they were bashing me over something she didn't agree with I'd like it if she spoke up. Now Helen and my MIL won't talk to me because "I must be really b*tchy too if I agree with that, cuz it's just wrong"!
Ugh ... if she didn't use her FAVORITE name for her firstborn, and hopes that she never has another boy, I would assume it's fair game! But they all say I'm wrong (now Helen is saying she never should have told me her favorite girl's name either because obviously if I get pregnant first I'll use it ). I mean, come on, people. It's a NAME and there are plenty more! More than enough for her to use if she never has another son.
They are being so childish. I think that the mother and father of the baby should pick the name, not anyone else. Maybe they will grow up soon and stop all of this chaos. Like you said, There are tons of names out there that they can use.
LOL my IL's told me and DH not to name our son our original name we had picked out (Xavior) because they said he would not even know how to spell it till he was ten. In the end i gave in and named him Reed, but i now really like his name, i am kind of glad i named him that instead becasue it fits him so well.
That SUCKS about the b*tchy SIL stealing the good ones name. I would be SO pissed. I am really picky about that kind of thing. If it were me she did that to i would probably never speak to her again! Arent i mean???
Yeah I hate it when ladies get all, omgz you stole my name!! not fair!! Frankly, after reading the story, I'm just glad the kid got a real, decent name and not Seven.
This story makes me realize with everything I go through with my inlaws, this certainly won't be one of them! My name choices you can see in my sig, and my SIL likes names like Kaylee. My sister is very middle of the road, with names like Emma and Audrey.
But I'm sorry that your inlaws are mad at you. Mine already hate me, so I would have spoken up too, but I know it's different when they normally like you. Oh well, this will pass soon enough and you'll be back on their good side.
Which is another reason I don't tell people our "favorite baby names" until we name the baby...
Although, DH's family isn't too fond of the names we pick for our kids. For one, they aren't ALL biblical... and for two, they're usually a bit "different". The only thing we try to do is find a name that we both like that DH's dad can say (he's deaf, and has a hard time with certain sounds). Before our first was born, his dad came to us with tears in his eyes asking us please give her a name he could say...
So far, we have a Jenelle Melody and now we have an Elyssa Joy. They go by "Nellie" and "Elsie" for his dad.
That is really childish. Guess what my sons name is...Sebastiaan!!!!
I have a short name though for him Sebi which MIL REFUSES to call him because she says its silly. She also pronounces his middle name wrong and it does my head in. Why does there always have to be so much drama regarding baby names? ugh!
Angels Bright from Starry height, change my mind and being with light!
that is exactly why we don't tell anyone the names until the baby is born and named
because people are crazy like that
i mean trying to name your baby for you - no thanks
its funny, my sister and i between us have 5 kids and we have used the same baby name books (just passed it back and forth) with highlighted names and whatever...and like the same names
i have never felt like she stole a name from me....its not my baby name until i have the baby to name
- i mean if the one girl had named her kid that already and the other one named hers the same...then you can be mad
that is just dumb imo