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I had an emergency c-section March 3 and my daughter had to stay in the NICU for 7 days. I had to leave her there when I was discharged, but she is home now!
So, SIL made dinner for me and DF for 2 nights. I love her to death! She is so unselfish!! She was also the one holding my hand in the OR because DF wasnt going to make it to her birth being 45 mins away. My family loves her!!! And I love her!!!
MIL....well, this is where things get rough! She hasnt been around...has been over to my house once. We live 2 blocks down, literally. Had many complications with my pregnancy...bedrest twice..high blood pressure, early contractions...pre-e...GD...you name it, I probably had it. DD is now a week and a few days old.
Now MIL thinks she can come over all the time! WTbloodyF?!?!?!!? The day we came home from the hospital with our daughter she wanted to be there. We told her NO. It was a family thing!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even my mom and sister, who both took the day off to help me with anything I needed went home when it was time to pick up Adeliya from the NICU. MIL calls non-sop. Yesterday, SIL made dinner for us again. YUM! ANd now MIL wants to bring dinner over tonight and spend time with the baby. Ummm.....yeah....NOOOOOOOOOO!! I told DF that thankfully Adeliya will be asleep and so will I. (Not really but who cares?!) So she can just drop off 'dinner' and be on her way. DF says...Please make peace! NO! I will NOT make peace! This woman said to her family that my daughter 'doesnt count' because she already has a granddaughter. So Adeliya is just 'another baby' in the family.
Monday, the day Adeliya came home from the NICU, SIL went to Walmart for us and bought us groceries. Mind you, I gave her my credit card, but still!!!!!!!!!!! She went and got everything on our list, and then some!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She also washed my dishes and feed my animals while I was in the hospital. DF never left my side, and slept at the hospital with me. MIL decided to take it upon herself, because SIL was helping out so much and she didnt want SIL to look like a Saint(though she is to me), to take ALL our clothes, clean AND dirty to her house and do laundry!!!!!!!!!!! I HAVE A FREAKING WASHER AND DRYER WOMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She took EVERYTHING!!!! I came home and wanted to take a shower only to open my drawer to find nothing in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That annoyed the sh*t out of me because its my UNDERWEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If it was my Mom doing it, I wouldnt have cared...shes my Mom. But her?!?!?!??!?!?! Then she says.....I took most of it to the cleaners...heres the bill!!!!!!!! I hand it back to her, and say...I didnt ask you to take ANYTHING to the cleaners....so heres the bill back! Also, the day she came home from the hospital, I was feeling excited and bouncy that I decided to vacumm my living room. SIL came over and saw the vacumm in the living room and kinda scolded me about it, saying that I needed to take it easy and save my energy for the baby. She finished vacumming for me. I guess she told MIL that she took a little longer at my house beause she wanted to finish vacumming for me. I was on the phone with DF at the time when SIL walked in with the groceries and saw the vacumm. MIL picks up the phone....vents to DF saying...Sarah heard vacumming when she went over to your house today. Why is Melba doing stupid things like vacumming?? She could have called me and I could have done it for her, not Sarah. Shes taking advantage of her.
This woman is the reason I want to move BACK to where we lived before we moved here a year ago! Being far away from her was wonderful. Being close is wonderful too, during my 8 months pregnancy, and now....I just want her to disappear!!!!!!!!!!
One of these days Im not going to hold my tongue and Im going to let it all fly out and give it to her good. I havent lately because of DF, but I have a feeling the time is coming near!
Your SIL does sound like a saint! I'm sorry that your MIL is being a pain! I can't believe she took all your clothes! I would have freaked out. And then she had the nerve to give you the cleaner's bill???!!!! I would so have my locks changed!
Oh hon... Is there any way that your SIL could talk to her? It sounds to me like your MIL is trying to be as nice as SIL but is totally going about it the wrong way (and it would drive me insane, too!) Good luck babe.