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Driving home from the grocery store today, I realized that with 4 years (assuming I get pregnant in the next year) between my kids, we won't have 2 kids in college at the same time. Since I didn't want this much space between my kids I need to look at the plus side of things or I will go insane.
PM to see if I am available to make a siggy - decisions will be made on a case by case basis.
This is such a good idea! Because our gap will be 5-6 years with our already 3 year old...and I get bummed about it big time. DH is having us wait till he and I are done with school.
Plus to widely spaced children are 1) You dont have to have two car seated children in the car at the same time. 2) Wont have two children throwing them selves on the floor of the store throwing a temper tantrum at the same time 'all hell breaks loose'...haha 3) The older child will be more protective and nurturing of the younger child because of the age difference. 4) Built in baby sitter! at some point 5) wont have kids in high school together when they need to be at jobs, activities, sports etc so you wont have to pull your hair out driving them all around town. Plus the older one can drive the younger one to school or pick up things for you when you need them too.
There quite a few plus..but downfalls too. Like I have observed my son around a room filled with children (his daycare) and he is so outgoing but only plays by himself mainly. Widely spaced children are very independent i think and because he has no one else to play with at home he always "needs" mommy and daddy to entertain him.
I adore the fact that my children are widely spaced. My son is 11 and my daughter will be 5 1/2 when our third is born. It wasn't planned for them all to be widely spaced, but it has worked out well. My son is his sister's own private warrior (;-) ) He also got "toddlerdome" and encouraged his friends to play and share with her telling them she would tire of their toys in a few minutes and move on, which she did. There are so many pluses to the age range!! They help each other with a lot of things, they are very independent. Abbi began writing, reading, etc.. very early because she liked to sit beside her brother in the evening and do her own "homework". There are countless blessings to having children spaced far apart.