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I have a 15yr old and a 7 yrs old and expecting another in aug. I haven't really experienced any negatives comments in regards to the age gap b/t my two. Most people are actually floored to realize that hubby and I have a 15 yr old b/c. People assume we are a lot older when we mention our kids and then are shocked when they find out.
Now with this new there'll be almost 16 yrs b/t it and the oldest. And 8 yrs b/t my youngest. I'm sure people are going to be surprised, but hey as much as I might've liked to have my kids a little closer in age it just didn't play out that way. I really don't have any regrets about it.
People just need to learn to keep their mouth shut with the negativity.
I've never posted here before but I have been lurking and I find this thread intriguing. I have a set of 7 1/2 year old twins (obviously no choice on their lack of spacing, LOL) and I'm pregnant with my third child. There will be an 8 year gap between the twins and this new baby, and even though I'm pretty young I still get comments from people who tell me that I'm crazy for "starting over." Truth be told, I would've loved to have had more kids earlier than now, but that wasn't in the cards for me. My twins are from my first marriage - ex-H and I had the twins when we were very young and we (or, moreso HE) decided that we did not want anymore kids after the strain the girls put on our finances and marriage (H was simply not ready to be a parent in the end). After my divorce I met my current DF and we've been trying for 2+ years and finally had success after a very frustrating TTC process. I sometimes worry that the twins will have a difficult time adjusting, but in truth I also think it's very special that I got to spend so much hands-on time with them before another child joined our family. And even though I believe in different strokes for different folks, I'm honestly pretty relieved that I won't have any other kids in diapers when this new baby comes. I had two in diapers at the exact same time and even though it was amazing it sure was stressful as well. Taking care of just one little babe will be a whole new experience for me!
PS - it irritates me to pieces that people make a big deal out of the "different fathers" issue, whether or not it's accurate. Is that supposed to be an indicator of promiscuity? Geez, I was married for three years and I've been with my DF for four years - that's hardly scandalous, LOL. Besides, my younger sister and I are only 13 months apart and we have different fathers, so age gaps are really irrelevant in that matter anyway.
I did get comments when I was pregnant with my twins and after I had them. There's almost 10 years between them and ds#2. But most of the comments were why are you having more children after having a child who has health issues and is delayed. I always said cuz I'm being blessed with them!