[MommiNikki]

Hello everyone,

I wan't too sure of where this topic would go but I guess a brief explanation of why I put it here should do fine... My only child is 9- she'll be 10 this year and it wasn't until as of the last year that I started really-really thinking about another child. My baby (which she's not a baby... but always MY baby..lol) is headed to the 5th grade and I realized if I wanted to ever do it again.. I might have to get cracking soon. I'm out of "excuses" to not do it again... I have accomplished everything I set out to do thus far, including the education, getting the job with the feds I wanted, and now... I am in the zone to where if I wanted to go ahead and do it- I don't have anything holding me back...even with FMLA my time is in or would very well be in by the time baby would be here...lol The only think I can think of now is... ensuring that specific 2 months worth salary, plus extra for "beginners needs" is ready and then the ummm.. what that "the right man to tango with" lol...

Either way, the main reason for the post is the fears of doing it "all over again" are setting in and that is now the 'excuse'... and I acknowledge that. I am no longer in a relationship and would ultimately have to be ok with maybe doing it alone again before I did it again. Granted- not necessarily true- but a definite possibility. But the main fear is.. the newness of it again. yeeeesh.

[MauMama]

Hi Nikki,

The fear is what is holding me back. I have my reasons, with my daughter having quite bad reflux and food sensitivities and now the Asperger's diagnosis, but I know even hard babies do grow up into lovely little people.

And yet...fear is stopping me.

[Crystal78]

Hi ladies, I am so sorry no one has been around to answer your questions I really hope you're still lurking here!

My name is Crystal I have 3 boys 12, 10 and 9 and a 1 yr old girl. I was terrified to start all over again but it hasn't been so bad it all comes back pretty fast and my boys are at an age where they understand that the baby has a lot of needs that need to be taken care of now and sometimes they need to wait a minute or two before they get all my attention but they were such a HUGE help to me and their sister adores them and they adore her.

Don't let the gap scare you, for me it was all worth it I cant imagine life without my baby girl.